Since your brother is older and gay, I'd say talk to him about his experiences and what the family dynamic was like. Aside from just making sure you're ready to come out, you need to make sure it's physically safe to come out. Since you said your "dad would have a heart-attack," maybe there's more you need to think about. You are still a child and you need to rely on your parents for food, shelter, clothing, etc. There are probably good reasons your brother waited until he was 20 to tell your dad. You need to know what those reasons are and see if they are good reasons for you to wait until you're out of the house and on your own.
Answered Oct 23, 2011
Edited Oct 23, 2011
.. I was thinking of just not telling my parents; like my brother untill im older and out of the house so I wouldn't have to live under any harsh condition. Everyone at my school seems to be okay with gays/lesbians/bisexual people as well. I was thinking about waiting untill highschool, but I feel like I have this burden pressing on my shoulders!
I dont want to make u paranoid, but parents have a way of findin out what goes around at school. I have been in a similar situation, and I know this will sound crazy, but try to relax and pretend your "burden" is made out of clouds. If it's not goin to be safe at home, then u do need to be extra careful. Study hard and try to get into a college away from home that has an LGB club. Remind yourself over and over that keeping quiet is temporary.
Yeah, I know what yo mean. But when did you, yourself come out than? Like were you away from home or stilll living there?
