Should I just get it over with already? What is the least painful? Im a total whimp!

I feel like nobody understands this illness and now I reeeeaally feel alone because the one person I thought would always be there to take care of me & love me no matter what is not. My husband wants to leave me now. He said he is tired of taking care me. I cant blame him. Although it is horrible when he just checks out and leaves me alone. My 14 year old son is also to the point of hating/disrespecting me because Im sick. He actually said to me that I dont know how to parent since I got sick and that he is getting tired of the puke smell in our house..(which is totally a lie because I am super sensitive to smell and I make sure it never smells bad!). We moved to Oregon from Honolulu to be closer to family to help out when things get hard with my illness but it just sucks here and I really am starting to think that my family that wanted to help me really just wants to take my children from me. Maybe they are better off with out me... I cant believe I have even come to this but Im useless to everyone and such a pain and I am tired and sad and scared

tiredinhillsboro

Asked Oct 18, 2011

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My illness is called Gastroparesis. It is a complication of Diabetes (which I have had since I was young). I also have rheumatoid arthritis. I think my sister might be trying to take my children from me because back in 2005 her child was put in my custody until my bro in law could take care of her. That removal by CPS was due to drug use and my sister, even though she got her child back, has always felt that I was the reason her child was taken. I almost feel like its a way to get back at me. It might sound crazy and it probably is...

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tiredinhillsboro Dec 09, 2011

A court must have a good reason to take your children from you and a person that has had their children taken for drug use wouldn't be considered an ideal candidate. I would continue on as you have been doing. If you find you are unable to care for your children it will be much better for everybody, most especially the kids, if you can work out an arrangement where your family can help without getting the court involved. It always works better when families do things out of love rather than being forced.

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Rob Dec 09, 2011

I agree with Rob.

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skyDancer Dec 09, 2011

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You don't mention what your illness is and why you think your family would want to take your children. Those are critical questions. If this is something where you can make changes to improve your health like an addiction then that's different than having no avenue available. Change anything you can to make it better and accept the things you can't change.

A family with love and understanding can endure very difficult ordeals intact. That sounds like the missing ingredient that's making a bad situation worse. As bad as you feel, try your best to understand the effect this has on your children and your family. Give them a chance to express how they feel and try to make them understand what life is like for you.

Rob

Answered Oct 18, 2011

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Have you all tried family counseling? Is there a support group for your illness that can help?

skyDancer

Answered Oct 18, 2011

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sorry Rob but I have to disagree with you, CHILD PrOTECTIVE SERVICES SUCKS!! SO DOES The department of children and family services. My mother was on drugs and the juge did place me with my father. I HATE THEM FOR WHAT THEY DID TO ME!! THEY DONT CARE ABOUT CHILDREN'S WELFARE!

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Answered Dec 09, 2011

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I don't understand what you're disagreeing with. I said: "It will be much better for everybody, most especially the kids, if you can work out an arrangement where your family can help without getting the court involved."