Everybody has feelings!

The other day me and my cousin were walking to the store. A few guys came up to us and asked for ourr numbers. I told them my phone was taken(which is true). But my cousin told one of the guys that she wasn't interested because they were not her type and the was lame and nobody wanted those "bums." I felt really bad. I dont think that anyone should have gotten that kind of response. But anyways.. me and my cousin started walking again and I said to her "that was really mean and that probably hurt their feelings.'' She then said " are you kidding? Those were thugs. and thugs dont have feelings.'' I thought about it some and is it possible to not have feeling and not have a care in the world? If it is possible I wish I was in that position of not having feelings. I love my cousin to death and when I love I love hard but she is really ignorant,and I just wanted to know what you think.

In my opinion it is rude to approach someone you don't know and ask for identifying information like a phone number, address or email. You don't necessarily need a formal introduction but you should have been around them enough to know who they are and something about them.

It is also very foolish; even dangerous for the person being asked to give information to them. The danger becomes even greater if you respond to them in a hostile or combative way. A better response would be, "I don't think so," or, "No thank you" with a smile then move on. The issue isn't anybody's feelings, it's your safety. You don't owe that information to anybody, and least of all to a stranger.

I agree with Rob completely...

When I was in high school, I was too uncomfortable not to comply with the (RARE!!!) request for my phone number, but I was so focused on my school work I didn't even want to consider the show of interest. I memorized the phone number to the local library's 24-hour story line and gave that out... but that was when cell phones were the size of a shoe box and only business people and Zach on "Saved By the Bell" had them. lol

You could also try something like, "I can't; my father is very strict." That is probably true to some extent and doesn't sound like an outright rejection which could trigger anger (thus a potentially un-safe situation) in the guy.