This 14 year old girl has a obsessive crush on me.

It all started when I was looking for a part time job. I’m a college student and I’m living in an apartment with my roommates. As I was good in maths I decided to teach maths at high school to the ninth graders. Several weeks later, this one student of mine namely Chelsea came up to me after class and said she had some problems with algebra and asked if I could tutor her at her place. And, I was like sure. So, there I was at her place helping her out with her math problems and out of nowhere she brushed my hair behind my ear with her hand and said I was the most amazing person she had ever met. That sure did struck me with lightening but I brought her back to earth and made her realize we were here to solve her math problems. So, for the next several days I tutored her and everyday she would make a move that I wouldn’t take so seriously. But, I had enough of her when she gave me a kiss on the cheek. That would be the last day of our math work. I told her that she no longer required any of my assistance in her algebra problems. But, that didn’t stop her. She would call me several times on my cell but I wouldn’t take the call. Yeah, I started avoiding her. But, I couldn’t while in class. One day she confronted me after class and she was hot red. She asked me why I was avoiding her and I said I wasn’t avoiding her, I was just busy. She had watery eyes and man she was getting redder by the minute. She called me a coward and pushed me and just stormed out of the classroom. I don’t know why she called me a coward. Why would she get so pissed off? I didn’t do anything wrong. How can I solve this without upsetting her?

You should make the administration of the school aware of what's going on in case she makes some kind of accusation in her anger. Ask them if you/they should contact her parents.

In the future, do your tutoring at the school, preferably in a classroom with more than one kid. It's sad that today's world would disallow a more personal form of contact but the reality is, false accusations and lawsuits make home visits and one-on-one sessions a high risk thing for a teacher to do.

I say do what Rob says. I think you're putting yourself in a more vulnerable position by not talking to Admin, even if you just talk to them in hypotheticals.

Someone needs to know you're trying to do the right thing in case she makes false accusations against you.... since -- sorry to say -- you already showed what would be viewed as poor judgement by going to her home for unsupervised sessions. If she makes a stink, you've left he door open for parents, etc. to wonder how far your poor judgment went.

From now on, you've got to stay in public places with doors open, other people in the room, etc. You have to be protected at all times. You can't let your guard down in these kinds of situations.

I also wonder if you could consult with one of your own professors for advice in handling situations like this??

You say you wanna keep ignoring her but the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If its not working, try another approach. I agree with Rob on this. Teenagers are not as pure as they might seem. Think back to when you were in grade school; pretty cruel stuff right? If she's as obsessive as you say she might say YOU were coming onto her out of anger.

It sounds like you need to seriously just get over the discomfort of not talking about it. Seriously, your job can be at risk here.

If she goes to the administration in her anger and accuses you of something, they will almost certainly take her side on it, as things like that tend to play out.

Go to the Administration first, tell them what has been happening and find out what you can do to avoid seeing that student again.

If you just explain to her calmly your not interested, that shes extremely young, or try her parents with this issue then it might get solved.