Need some advice

hi ive been split up with my ex over a year n half. since then ive had is uncle after me we ended up sleeping together more on his behalf he did all the come on etc. hes ripped off my clothes and since then has raped me he stands outside my house on guard as he calls it and questions who I have in my house? im 24 and hes 38 he lives with his mother and has never left home as hes her carer its got so bad he trys to control me but I dont let him. even thow endlesly ive told him I dont want any relationship and dont want him trying it on he still trys and like ive said a couple of weeks ago he pinned me down and raped me since then ive felt guilty and really dpressed I really need some help on this matter iknow ive made things worse by still letting him down but really need some advice he really depresses me cos ive said I dont want him down no more but then he threatens to kill himself etc I have decided to tell him to stop away as I have a four year old with his nephew but I know hes gonna get violent and watch the house while I sleep. would really like some advice feel trapped thankyou

You have some tough decisions to make. You can obviously have him charged with rape if he forced himself on you without your consent and what you describe also sounds like stalking.

If you live in an area where there's a battered women's shelter or a division of social services that deals with battered women's issues, go to them and get counseling on what you should do. They will be familiar with your local laws and services that are available. Some areas can provide temporary living facilities until the system can deal with him.

I would also suggest you get some assertiveness training. You need to draw a hard line in the sand for what you are willing to tolerate. With most women, the first time would have been the last time.

Definitely talk to social social / battered women's services in your area. Tell them everything you haven't told us so they can help you fully with legal and housing support.

if you want real help email me cops dont do their best work in these area's and often women in such situations are left for dead with cops believing that a piece of paper called a restraining order will stop bull crap and rapist's never stop with one person or one rape or one beating as for the suicide threats ..... tell him to nut up or shut up he's not actually willing to kill him self or he wouldnt threaten such he would just do it hes doing what he can to warp you to his will .... you cant allow that my personal email is adam.t.jacobs@gmail.com