Confusion with a girl

Im not really sure if this is the right site to use and if this is an appropriate question for it but I just have been very confused about a situation between me and this girl that I figured id give this site a try because I wasnt getting help anywhere else. Ok, so here is the situation..
Positives:
(1) The girl knows that I like her
(2) The girl seems like she is interested in hanging out
Now here is where the confusion starts to take place...
Negatives:
(1) As I already said the girl said she is interested in hanging out but when I ask her what days are good for her I got "Idk I work a lot" (This is under negative because, yea maybe she really does work a lot but to me it seems like that is sort of an answer full of indifference.
(2) When im talking to her, this mostly happens through texts, she sometimes just gives those one word answers that are really conversation killers that in a way scream "i dont want to talk" i.e. [Me] Hey, hows it going how was the trip? [Her] Good

Sorry about rambling on and on but im quite confused and was wondering what you guys think about this situation? Is this a situation where I should keep talking to this girl or should I leave her alone or what. I know its ultimately her decision whether she wants to continue talking or not but im asking should I continue trying to talk to her.
Diesel
Asked Aug 02, 2011
Her short answers may be that she doesn't type well or even that the device she's using is difficult to manage. You will get much better understanding of what she thinks if you talk to her by phone rather than texting.

A good way to find out if she is interested in you is to go for a while without contacting her. If she makes no effort to get in touch with you, then things don't look good.


Rob
Answered Aug 03, 2011
I see where you are going with the going for a while without contacting her thing but I dont know. At this point it seems like she wouldn't put an effort to contact me but I dont neccesarily think its because she is not interested but it is because she is not comfortable with me or maybe she is just a shy person. The way I see is why would she say she wants to hang out with me if she wasnt in some way interested in me and when I say "interested" I dont necesarrily mean as in a relationship but even just to be friends. I really appreciate the help though.
Diesel Aug 04, 2011
How someone truly feels is better demonstrated by what they do than what they say. What you say is just a statement, doing it means it actually has a place on your priority list. I can say, "I'd like to go on vacation" but when I weigh that against all of the other things I have to do, I never get there. It's because the other things are a higher priority on my list.

For whatever reason, hanging out with you is too far down on her list of priorities or she would be DOing it. To think otherwise is just a rationalization.
Rob Aug 04, 2011
Oh ok that actually makes a lot of sense. Now that I read that I feel like I'm part of the problem too. I tell her that I want to hangout but I don't stress it enough to make it happen... Here's the deal with that though, I don't want to stress hanging out too much but In the back of my head I feel like what im doing is not helping the situation because I guess it just leaves an indirect answer. Like "do you want to hangout sometime?" then she will respond "yess" I do it because I feel good inside without actually having to do the work of worrying and getting nervous about hanging out
Diesel Aug 04, 2011
Shell do that mabey shes jus...not ready but she is.
BreannaLove
Answered Aug 04, 2011
I have the same exact problem with a girl that I liked for a while, but i've kind of given up on it now. You just need to say "you know how I told you I like you?" and when she acknowleges, ask her if she does or what she thinks about it. And that oughta solve it for ya. But don't make it seem like you're pressuring her or she might stonewall, a phrase interrogators use to say that the subject won't say anything or has blunt answers like I don't know and never mind.
gingerkid
Answered Sep 07, 2011

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