AM I doing the right thing?

I am in college and I don't talk to either of my parents. My mom walked out on me when I was three years old. She took drugs over me. By court order I was placed with my biological father. I stayed with him until I was 18 years old. He abused me Mentally anmd physicly. I went to the local police station and they didnt believe me. I went to the police three times. They called Department of children and Family Services and they said I was just lying because I just broke up with my girlfriend. I couldnt say anything with out getting yelled. My stepmom moved in when I was 10 years old. She slapped me accrossed the face for spilling the dog food on the floor. When I was 17 years old I was very sick and he came home screaming at me. I fell down 16 stairs and cracked my head open. They had to staple my head back together because it was so bad. I had throat sugery when I was 16 years old. I was born with 10% breathing copacity so the doctor wanted to get my airway open, so I could breath. WEll, My father wanted to take me out of the hospital three days after I had my sugery becuse he told me that I think this ios a hotel. My biological mother's brain is fried because of drugs. My biological dad has NO Patience with me. I am his ONLY child. He threw a gas can at my head because I didnt fill the gas tank to the four weeler up right. My father also got an 800 doller check everymoth from my mother for child support, but he alwayts used it on the house morgage. I applied for Financial aid in college and got it. My father didnt save any money up for me to go to college. My mom wants me to take care of her when I get older. I know My mother is my mother and my father is my father? Should I speak to them? AM I doing the right thing by not talking to them?
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Anonymous User
Asked Jul 25, 2011

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well im sure theirs some good days in your family life, but aside from that, you should keep away from them but not cut off completely. From what you've wrote down you guys seem pretty dysfunctional so tend to the wounds slowly. AND DONT BE MANIPULATED BY THEM EVER, make sure that they dont talk you into doing something you dont want to do, like giving money to your father or mother/step-mother when you know they wont pay it back. Remember their are people who have it worse and you actually dont have it that bad, I know a guy who saw his stepdad kill his mom as a child with his kid brothers then then was threatened, his stepdad forced the kids to roll up the mom and help him burry her, anyways just remember your not that bad.
kingaskong1234
Answered Jul 25, 2011
well what you need to do is stay strong and keep ur head up high just like I tell everyone
I have a different take.

You survived as a child. Now, you can thrive as an adult.

I think you're doing exactly the right thing. Do not speak to them. Do not interact with them. Move on with your life the best you can. Do not look back.

Yes, of course they gave you life... but they damn near took it as well. You have no obligation to them. Yes, others do have it worse... but that in no way diminishes what you've experienced... and it doesn't change the fact that you have every right to have a happy, safe, fulfilling life from here on.
skyDancer
Answered Jul 26, 2011
Edited Jul 26, 2011
That same thing happend with my parents but I still live with them darnit.
Emmy
Answered Oct 26, 2011
no offence but ur eleven u have to
I know
Emmy Oct 27, 2011
be strong x
no u should talk to them. pls do that asap. talk to both of them. ask them how they are and thank them for what they did for you.
MohitMago
Answered Jan 17, 2013
Dude, fuck your mom and dad. If you truly think they deserve to talk to you still after the shit they put you thru, then so be it. But if you want my opinion , I say the hell with them. I grew up with a drugy mother too, she always lied, and was never there for me. I was put into foster care at age 7 , and now that im grown they have the nerve to contact me and say they love me and shit. Fuck them.
supermatts
Answered Mar 11, 2013
Edited Mar 11, 2013
Same shit with my fuckin parents I live with my mom fuck your parents fuck that
Nickhunt
Answered Dec 13, 2013
Yes you should always keep in touch but from faraway mind you..i urge you to find therapy to treat your mental wounds..that was alot of abuse you confronted..stay strong
RUFUS14
Answered Mar 04, 2014

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