I agree with Rob. Staying there, and just asking questions won't help. Who knows, she could be interested in you. Yet again, just asking her could make her lose interest. Find some time to hang out. Get close to her but don't make any sudden moves. Go watch a movie and do the old trick from the book. Yawn and "accidently" rest your arm around her. Then watch her and see if she gets closer to you with that. Back to Rob, telling her about a cute girl could trigger some reaction. Just don't take it too far bro. I got into a fight with one chick cause of that. Good luck :]
Thanks, I'm opposed to the whole "I met a cute girl" idea because to me it seems like that would just make her upset If she is actually interested in me because I know that would definitely bother me if it was the other way around. Right now I'm taking the "Let's make this clear, I'm interested in you" approach, meaning I'm talking to her a lot and really stressing hanging out. When I first asked her to hangout the answer was flat out "yes" so it's not like I'm pushing things but do I basically just go right for the things like arm around her and stuff or do I give it time?
The "cute girl" idea is intended to make her understand you have other choices. If you give her the idea that she's your only choice or choose your words for fear of upsetting her, the relationship is unbalanced before it gets started. My advice is never make decisions based on your hopes (that's gambling), base them on what you know. When you don't know, find out.
A friend will be happy to learn that you met a cute girl and you'll still be friends. If it upsets her, she'll learn how she really feels about you. The only reason for her to go away is if she has someone else or is bored. In either of the three cases, you know where you stand.
As a woman, I'd have to say the "cute girl" thing would either piss me off because I like you, or piss me off because you lied to me. Either way, I say don't manipulate. Either be honest or be quiet. If you choose to be straight on about how you feel, I don't think you're creating an unbalanced dynamic. You never lose your power if you always remember you do have options and you can walk at any time (even if you don't feel like you have options or like anyone else).
If you tell a girl you like her and she just laughs at you and is unwilling to voice how she feels about it, "pissing her off" is a better solution than the "unbalanced dynamic" of having your chain pulled until you eventually learn the hard way. I'm not suggesting anything rude or hurtful, just a way to get a response one way or the other.
Maybe guys just have a different perspective because of "learning the hard way", or maybe it's just me... but I just hate and resent manipulation... although a fake cute girl is lower on the scale. I've always been direct and I appreciate direct. I've never liked games... but it depends on the girl... Maybe having friends scope out the situation is better here than direct or made up.
