Child custody and visitation are controlled by the court. As a natural grandparent you have a right to ask the court for visitation but whether they grant it will depend on the laws of the state where you live, the facts associated with the case and the degree of opposition of the custodial parent.
If you have a good relationship with the custodial parent, it will work much better if you explain to them that you want to maintain a relationship with your grandchildren and try to work out an agreeable visitation solution. Making children the rope in a family tug-of-war does nothing but make the negative effects of a divorce even worse than what they've already experienced.
Answered Jul 20, 2011
Edited Jul 20, 2011