Egotistical behavior?

why does this guy act authoritative towards his wife and other women that has a crush on him (even some who does not have a crush), but yet he is shy, nervous, not talkative around this particular girl?

I don't know how else to say this but squarely:

No one is jealous of you, and we can do little more than make assumptions because we aren't there, and you aren't clear.

I can't tell what in the world is going on here.

Honestly... and please hear this with nothing but compassion and no malice or ill will... from what you're writing... well, you're not convincing me that you aren't the issue. Honestly, from what you are writing -- and since I am not there to see anything -- I couldn't even say that he actually *is* doing anything to you.

However, if you do feel he is harming you or harassing you:

1 - GET A PERSON NEAR YOU TO HELP YOU. I don't know what more Rob and I can do without witnessing what's going on, and I don't see anyone else pitching in. No one wants to read about you being hurt in the paper, so please take steps to protect yourself if you feel you are being harassed.

2 - Get a witness to back you up so you can take action. In order to get protection, you need to sound credible. You need to have some sort of proof or documentation or a witness or something.

3 - If you continue to believe you are being harassed, tell his wife. Tell her to get him to leave you alone.

4 - If he is a coworker, talk to human resources or your direct report. Tell them there's an issue and ask for help getting space.

5 - Tell him to cease and desist or you will file for a restraining order. If he has any sense at all, he'll definitely stay away from you (although I'm not convinced you *want* him to stay away from you...).

6 - If you continue to believe you are being harassed, understand that the paperwork [for filing a restraining order] will require you to clearly describe the harm you are experiencing. You have not been able to do that here, so you would need help. Most cities have advocacy offices that can help with that. Contact your local social services office for help.


... BASICALLY, the point is, get help from an actual person. We're too limited by keyboards and screens to be of real assistance to you, and it *is* clear that you need help.

He could be aware that "this particular girl" is watching every little move he makes and sense that getting to know her better could create problems for him, either with his job or his marriage.

he keeps touching the girl when no one is looking. He keeps standing behind her in her personal space. He keeps popping up in front of her. He's a nervous freak to talk to her. She keeps walking away from him, but he keeps popping up in her space. (you don't know the whole story, so stop making assumptions and being jealous of this scenario)