Sex - first time. please help!

i am 16 and my boyfriend is 17. we both really love eachother and are dating since 7 months. i'm a virgin but he is not. his parents are going out of town tomorrow and so we'll have his house to ourselves. so he asked me if I was ready to have sex and he also said there is no pressure and that he loves me and nothing will change. i'm ready to take it to the next level, but i'm really scared and nervous. will it pain? i'm going to loose my virginity and it freaks me out a bit. but I really want to do it. any advice and help would be appreciated. thanks alot

First of all, EVERYTHING will change! How you think of yourself will change. How you think of him will change. Your expectations of him and your relationship will change. (You'll expect more from him, most likely, and may be MUCH more unhappy when/if things don't work out.) So, be aware of that. Even in later relationships (like 20s and 30s) things change after the couple cross that line, so make sure there's an appreciation of that.

You must, must, must use protection to help avoid the dreaded pregnancy scare. No glove, no love.

For the rest of it.... it shouldn't be painful. Just make sure you're ready. It sounds like he'll be patient if you're not. Whatever you're feeling, remember you can back out if you think that's what you need to do.

Well, first of all, it sounds like you're not ready-you want to, but you're not COMPLETELY comfortable with it...so since you're not yet- I don't think you should do it yet period. But, you will know if it's right when you and this guy still go on for a while longer to the point of marriage and then you know that there's no reason why you shouldn't besides the fact of having marital problems or something like that. And you have a great chance to say no because he told you that you don't have to if you don't want to and I think that was VERY mature of him:) And besides, keep in mind that it MIGHT just be your body saying, "I want to and I'm ready"...it's completely normal:) But also, in my opinion/belief, I don't think anyone should have sex before marriage..so ya-in my opinion..:)

it is not all was sex if u dont want u dont have to

well , since i'm answering a little late , I severely hope you didnt go through with it . and i'll tell you why :

you guys have only been going out for seven months . enough said there , but even if you guys love eachother VERY VERY VERY much , its not the reason to go have sex with eachother ! what you should do instead is wait a while longer until you guys are both in college or something . because you dont know if you're going to stick together for that long and if you do it this one time , then you'll never be a virgin for anyone else . you'll never be the first time to anyone else .

that's my reason for not having sex . that and it scares me a bit . mostly because im young . anyways , sooo yeah . hope this helps . even though its a BIT late .

im late but I hope u dint do it wait ntil marige

Society today beats into everyones heads that sex is bad when we are teens, and we will go to hell haha and yet there is so much sexvertising "advertising"/movies/media/hollywood that presents sex as fine and in an "everyone is doing it" matter. So if you ever look back here to your question I can say I hope you listened to none of these other posters, and just did what YOU felt was right. When it comes to sex your mom will frown, and your dad will want to kill the boy. Thats just how things are at this point in time. Though I think it would have been a great experiment to tell you boyfriend no, and see just how patient and understanding he really is. If you did decide to give it a go with him, I hope you both had a great experience, and that you learned from it if you didnt. But in the end only you can tell yourself to have sex, and if you felt pressured to please your boyfriend then you were going about it the wrong way. Neither of you should feel pressured, or nervous about having sex, because if your 100% ready then you both should WANT to pleasure the other, no regrets or hesitations involved. Have fun :D