My 18 year old step son sniffs my dirty underwear

My 18 year step son sniffs my dirty underwear and I don't know whether to confront him or keep allowing him to sniff them. It's been about 2 months since I first realized he had been 'using' my underwear to relieve himself. It started with him simply sniffing my dirty underwear out of the wash bucket, but he has now started to ejaculate into them which is a problem as the stains are quite visible. He recently found my erotic underwear collection and well let's just say, I had to throw most of them away as they had some rather large and unremovable stains on them. It's not as simple as confronting him and asking him to stop either, as I have feelings towards him and as weird as it may seem, him sniffing my underwear turns me on in a way his father just can't. Please help me as I don't know whether to confront him and tell him about the feelings I have or to simply let it go by the way side
ConfusedMother
Asked Jun 07, 2011
Young people do all kinds of things to experiment and learn about sex although that usually happens at an earlier age than 18. It sounds like he may be a little behind the curve. Other than the laundry issue, I wouldn't be that concerned about him.

My concern is you and where this could be headed. If you discuss it with him and most especially, you admit your feelings, you will never be able to retreat from that. If he gets the idea that there is a possibility his fantasies could become reality, there will be a huge shift in your relationship with him and I predict it would ultimately be destructive to your family.

If his father is in any way a reasonable and understanding person, the ideal solution would be for him to have a light conversation with his son about it. If that isn't possible, you should make a joking comment to your son that he needs to buy his own panties, that his behavior is ruining a lot of your best stuff. Then, drop the conversation there and don't bring it up again.

If you get into a discussion about erotic feelings under these circumstances, you're playing with dynamite.
Rob
Answered Jun 07, 2011
Edited Jun 07, 2011
Well said.
Very well said.
Well you cant really let this go. You could confront him...but what I would do is tell his dad. If you confronted him that could lead to sexual relations and you don't really want to open that door. That's what I would do.
themegaperfect1
Answered Jun 13, 2013
Number 1 Talk to him about what led to this
Number 2 you could take him to a therapist
Finally try and stop it once you get all the information and talk to him and try and stop it!
HeartBreaker986
Answered Aug 31, 2013
I suggest you slap that child, and if he isn't already graduated, once he does graduate ask him to please get his own place. That is very disrespectful. I mean, come on how are you going to cum all over a woman's underwear and not wash them or hide them? He could at least steal a pair and always use just that one. But, as for you? I have cheated before, and before you cheat with your husbands son, I suggest you don't tell him about your feelings before you ruin your households relationship.... Just don't.... But, I'm 19 and I know boys, and some of the friend's I have would do that crap just because they know you have feelings for them. He could just be messing with you, because he's a little punk. Consider that.
Pru123
Answered Oct 06, 2013
before doing that do the art of living course,dsn of shri shri ravi shankar............u r opinion will just change,all positiveness will come in u! ........the ''sudarshan kriya'' was about thousand years ago they will teach !! so just do it!......
saurabh13
Answered Aug 07, 2013
Don't confront him or tell his dad ,the people telling you that are wrong you'll screw things up with his dad the kid is normal he really is so don't screw up his life the people who tell you different are trouble makers , your husbands friends are smelling your panties I would just find another spot its gotta be a turn on any way so plz be cool find another spot for your panties leave the kid alone
nubs
Answered Aug 30, 2013
I'm wondering if you still read this post. If so, you can reply to me at experienceproject.com, my user name is goldfolsom. Please others need not reply I am not interested in your hate mail. It is natural for a male to be interested in a female scent. Just look to nature and the animal kingdom for the answers. It is how the entire animal kingdom operates including us. That unmistakable unquestionable chemical attraction. Also, not so unusual for you to be attracted to him, he is a younger version of his father and carries the same DNA.

There is also the allure of the forbidden fruit and the idea of a younger mate finding you attractive that would be a huge turn on. True an intimate encounter with one another would be erotic on many levels. Probably best to leave that in the fantasy world. But you might just play into his desires a bit. Buy cheap panties, wear them for a couple of days then leave them out conspicuously for him to find them.

I have a 22 year old step daughter and I find her scent intoxicating. It is however exactly the same as her mother. I was caught by her mother sniffing her daughter's dirty panties. She is a very understanding woman it was she who explained the natural attraction and the idea of the act being somewhat normal. She does not condone it, but accepts it on some level as a natural urge and is able to overlook it as long as it doesn't go beyond that.

This is an older post and I would be very much interested in an update as to how you resolved it.
goldfolsom
Answered Jan 06, 2014
If you want to end your marriage listen to Ricky4 other wise you may want to talk to your husband of the situation..good luck
RUFUS14
Answered Mar 12, 2014
I would just wait until you catch him doing it then explain
imaSPAZZ
Answered Apr 19, 2014
Your son is going to matured knowing the sex
patrick009
Answered Apr 19, 2014
I think your son relieving himself in your underwear is quite normal. Its the most accessible sexual toy available to him.

I myself once saw my 14yr old son smelling my underwear and masturbating.
He is young, its normal. Now I make sound when I change and leave my dirty thongs easily seen so that he may relieve himself whenever he wants.

But you feelings toward him is what is bad. this will ruin u
kate22
Answered Sep 18, 2014
The father should tell the son that his wife doesn't like her underwear to be sniffed and doesn't want a teenager's cum on them. The father could offer his underwear to the son as a substitute.
jdurst
Answered Apr 22, 2012
but the son is probably straight
weirdo
masterchief4
Answered Mar 31, 2013
You should be haveing him sniff them on you. That way you can watch him so turned on by them. And watch him jerking off sniffing them on you. Have him use paper towel as not to stain your underwear when he cums off. Or you can have him feed you his cum.
Ricky4
Answered Dec 27, 2012

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