MOM HELP! PART 1 of 2 Part 2: Dad Help

MY MOMS SIDE OF FAMILY:: MY mom walked out on my when I was little and picked drugs over me.. I was born premature and 1 year and 30 days in the hospital. I had 24 hour nurse care when I got home from the hospital. My mom went into her room every night and shut the door.My dad raised me. Now that im 20 years old, she wants to get back in my life. She is mental unstable. I am also in college. My moms side of my family are all control freaks. They all want me to do what they tell them: like what I should Now I think I have a hatetred for women. Im not gay at all. I just have been rteated horribly by every women in my life(girlfriends,stepmom, mom,grandma) Her family thinks I should take care of her when they all die. What should I do? PART 1...

GOOD FOR YOU for moving away and going to school!!!!! Talk about lemons to lemonade... That's best case scenario for what you experience as a child and teenager.

As for the woman part... I'd say take quite a bit of time and let the dust settle on that. Steer clear of relationships and focus on your schoolwork. In a few years or whatever, maybe you'll have worked through some issues or will some other shift will have occurred that helps you select out women who will treat you poorly.

Rob is right, you have no obligation whatsoever to your family if they have never done anything for you. It sounds to me like your mom is very selfish and the mere fact that she brought you into this world is not a condition for the need for your ethical consideration; in fact it is more likely that her creation of you was also a selfish act and you were simply a consequence of that selfishness. You don't owe her anything for that and certainly you should not be swayed by what the rest of your family says about her, just tell them you will take care of her as well as she took care of you..

stand up for ur self its what u want u want to have that childhood u deseved with ur mum its up to u but u gotta think wait my mum was never there y couldnt she do that b4 but on the other hand she was in drugs really its up to u u tell her strate what u think if u want to then thats great if u dont then thats her lost for not doing it b4 good luck :)

My takeaway from your three questions are that you don't like your father nor his family, You don't have any feelings for your mom and since she is a female, you hate all females including your stepmom and past girlfriends.

You have no obligation to take care of your mom nor to contact your grandfather. None of us had anything to do with the families we were born into nor the failed relationships of our parents and grandparents. There is no way you can change a single one of the people you describe in these questions. What you CAN do is move beyond all of the concern for what you don't have and make the most out of what you have. The alternative is to let the past twenty years ruin the next fifty. That's the most important choice you have to make.

You shouldn't do anything that you don't want to do. They shouldn't be telling you to do anything for her and that is your decision to make. I like what bibby66 said about that you don't owe her anything even if she did bring you into this world. Good job about going to college and and moving on in life without her!!

Well I think just forget about her find a good woman for finish collage get married and marry her so you can start a. Family and be a great dad to your kids