Why date someone over 18 if you're underage?

There are so many questions on this site about younger teens dating someone over 18, as in men in their 20s and 30s. When I was in high school, I was super focused on earning a full-ride to college, so I have no insight into why an underage teen would even want to do this.

Is there something "cool" about it? Do people not realize it's statutory rape punishable by jail time, etc.? What gives? Why does this keep coming up?
skyDancer
Asked May 10, 2011
Edited May 10, 2011
Kids think there cool and got swag and stuff I agree with night angel sometimes they do to get beer and smokes and in return they get sex and stuff yea they think there cool cause the kids there age are going through puberty so they look for older people cause they passed puberty I don't really understand it :/
Not all girls like older man,at my middle school.These girls don't like older man until they are woman.until,then,they will stick with there 12-15 year old teenage boys,they also love our dicks,too.Just saying.
Most girls like older men cause they find them more mature. Most boys take longer to mature than girls and it can be difficult to like people who are acting much younger than you. This isn't true for everyone and some girls like how fun guys there age can be but its difficult to take them seriously.
I think they don't realize the consequences of it. In my experience, some of them have done it so the person who was over 18 could buy them alcohol or cigarettes. I believe that the main part is they simply lack common sense. The day I turned 18 I knew that I would never try to date someone underage because I knew the problems it would cause, and I think it's just disgusting to.

Part of the problem is this upcoming generation, a good part of them, they are wanting to party and have fun. They don't think about the consequences of their actions. They believe that with someone who is 18 or older they can buy things that are illegal for them to have so they create a relationship with them.
night_angel
Answered May 10, 2011
Makes sense. Thanks.
I think most of the generations wanted to party and have fun when they were this age. I consider it quite normal.
Older guys are very attractive to young girls, because they are sooo different from their immature coevals. They are well-built, know how to treat a girl, responsible and in most cases - financially well. So it is normal a young girl to dream of her prince, who turns out to be one of these types.
There is also another type - the little whores. They even may not understand it, but they turn into it. An older guy woos a girl, then starts to buy her expensive stuff and so on - and in the one moment they end up in bed and she is his little doll. Well, everyone with his priorities.
I think it's sad all the way around.
I totally agree with nevertheless. This is how young girls think. And by being a young girl myself I think that we are all looking for something different. Boys at this age are very very very immature. Girls are growing faster. They want something different. They don't want a boy anymore they want something more like a man. That's why they seek older men. Of course there are other aspects. Young girls can be simply little whores as nevertheless said and of course there is always the possibility that there is love, real love between the man and the girl..
Yea I agree with nevertheless all the way
I think not enough experience in life to make good decisions. They are children. Children don't make good decisions yet because of lack of experience. That's why they need decent parents. I have to wonder, where are the parents? Who's watching these kids? I never would have gotten away with this, and my dad would have called the cops on the guy. I would have been lucky if that was ALL he did.
BrightStar
Answered Jul 08, 2011
well...like me and a lot of other people age does not matter...people are just doing what they do and being happy and living the time...they don't worry about the consequences...u get me??
verlynn
Answered May 10, 2011
Yeah, I get it. Thanks. It just that when someone's younger than 18, is seems like they've taken the cover off the self-destruct button.
i see were your coming from.all im intrested in is my exams thats why being single at the moment is the best option.i think they feel it makes them look "cool" infront of thier friends or somnetimes just the constant need for attention really.
chanel_swagga
Answered May 10, 2011
Thanks. Good luck with your exams.
its ok.and thankyou :)
Answering this question from experience and what I have seen from other girls in my school I would have to say that between the age of 13 and 16 is a major time for any teen girl.
It is at this time people are discovering their sexuality and usually girls more than boys get their claws into anyone who shows interest in them and they son't care about age, what type of rape it is or the consequences of their "relationships". I am like you I have only had one girlfriend (currently still with her) and I am completely focoused on getting the grades I want and need to get into university. Kids these days don't care about that stuff they just want attention, sex and a family before they have "passed it". Keep in mind that there are a handful of teens out there who do have common sense and genuinely have feelings for these older men/women and wait untill they are of a legal age to continue or begin a sexual relationship with thier partners. I hope I helped a little bit.
Sexy2011
Answered May 10, 2011
Oh yeah... I do remember girls throwing it at anyone who would catch it... yeah, the self-esteem. Thanks.
Well to me I think their more mature than the guys your age and they know how to treata girl. But I never dated a guy over 18. I am currently dating a guy my age =]
curls
Answered May 28, 2011
Well I think that most of the girls who are dating these older men are having emotional problems and to them, these men are helping/loving to the girl...but I think from the man's side of view-It's a GREAT opportunity to take advantage of that girl...even if it's just having someone younger with them...but where I live-it's illegal to date someone who's over 18 if that person is under 18..so ya:)
Hatrat
Answered Jul 07, 2011
Edited Jul 07, 2011
coz they think its cool to lose there u no wat but its not u should do it with some one u love and trust
zoo123
Answered Jul 10, 2011
yes , its definately a cool thing for them . personally , I dont see what is so fascinating or "cool" about it , but maybe it be some sort of way of rebeling their parents or something ? I dont know . hope this helps .
loveya
Answered Jul 13, 2011
im thirteen and I hope im one of the sensible ones its revolting to me to do that and they do it cause they think it cool or cuz o peer presure
bobb1358
Answered Oct 25, 2011
I am marrying some one four years older than me if I were in my teens would I love him less? That said I think if the People truly love each-other they don't need to endanger the older one by being together yet, If it is real love it will wait.
starla12
Answered May 26, 2012
True love will wait and try to be responsible.
Young teen girls think life is just a game and do realize what love is.
Even guys in their 20's and 30's they think its a piece and just going for it. They do not realize its someones daughter; a breathing human being. they don't treat
her as a human, they treat her as a sex toy and an object. And girls tend to let guys make a fool out of them and don't realize it they expect to be what people want them to be including media. They fail to realize who they are because they choose to hang out with people who do not accept them for them. People get desperate for wrong reasons and then get people in trouble also.

Young people need to focus on school but they wont thus they have to learn the hard way like we all do.

Too many people come from broken families and media that does not teach them the truth in love.

I believe what is the point of marriage? Now? Because all people do is have 3 ways and cheat. Why get married?

I do not even think people know what love and marriage means anymore.

I am shocked to see how many people use love when they do not.
It doesn't matter young or old.
It's crazy.
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mysteryshepherd
Answered May 28, 2012
There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind,and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind
Mitch70
Answered Jan 25, 2015
To be honest though, sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with...and I mean real love not the petty stuff that 13/14 year olds claim to know (no offense intended) My best friend (19) is one of the sweetest guys you'd ever meet and he's completely in love with another one of our friends (16) and has been since me and him were in year 12. I think, as long as it's a relationship that isn't sex, alcohol or drugs, go for it...If you both like each other for the right reasons...Her parent's fully support the idea because they know he has her best interests at heart. They weren't supportive of it when they first met (cause she was 14 at the time and we were 17), but they've said now if anything were to happen they'd support it.

Just a question though - over here in Australia it's only illegal to have sexual relationships with someone under the age of 16, is it actually illegal for someone over the age of 18 to be the person's boyfriend/girlfriend over where you are?
Waiting_For_You
Answered Nov 22, 2011
I know of a guy (19) and a girl (15 soon to be 16) and they have taken things very slow. They have been on a few dates, nothing more than a kiss on the cheek and cuddles, but aren't dating because they want to wait til'she is 16.. Do you think that is the right thing to do?
Well personally I don't get the big deal u guys make out of it. Yes some people may use each other and I'm not saying that's right. But what about us people out there who just plain love each other for who they are, not for what the other person can give them like cigs or alchol? I'm in love with a 19 year old, and I have feelings that he loves me back. We are not going to do any sex or anything like that.As far as I know you will NOT go to jail unless the guy and girl start having sex. Kissing, cuddling, hugging etc.. will not send you to jail. I'm sorry but I'm just saying, you people are pre-juding.
Sarah98
Answered May 21, 2012
But doesn't kissing, cuddling and hugging lead to sex? Enough said.
I don't know where you're from, but in the US kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling, talking about sex even if you don't intend to have sex can be considered sexual activity with a minor. I mean it is not illegal for an adult to date a minor with the knowledge and permission of the parents, as long as there is absolutely no physical contact at all between the two involved.
I am 20 years old and I have been with my fiance 5 years now. we met when I was 15. he was 22! I have always been VERY mature for my age. I never really got to be a child, so guys my age were out of the question, as they mature slower anyways. I never would have imagined an age difference like that. I always dated older guys but had my limits. Never would I have considered a 22yr old with me at 15. I think it all depends. I was a vergin when we got together and I made him wait a while before that ever changed. I think it depends on the maturity of the younger person, and what the older person has on his/her mind. and I dont think its for cigs of alchol. if kids want cigs/drugs/booze now days they can get it. trust me. I was in high school not too long ago.
Hyperhuskypuppy
Answered Sep 12, 2012
they think that older people are hotter ,God knows why, but they also think that other people there age just arent intresting or they think they love the person or they think they are too mature for people there age
Kiruse
Answered Feb 01, 2013
Edited Feb 01, 2013
im 16 and I date a 26 year old man. I fell in love with him the first time I saw him and hes the only person that understands me. my mom beats me and my dad dose drugs. ,my mom has sold my body to strange men for years and I have never said a word because shes my mom. I came into contact with my lover a few years ago and at first we were just friends. he didnt buy my any illegal things. now im pregnant by him and we realize that we have made a mistake but we are dealing with it in an adult way.
babysam
Answered Apr 16, 2013
That's a really, really unfortunate situation all the way around. My husband and I adopted two kids who came from a situation very similar to yours. I hope everything works out for you in the end.
well some people call it love but it is true it's serious jail time for the older person :/ but you can't help no loving somebody haha
amor_b
Answered Apr 19, 2013
I'm 14, and dating a 18 year old. I don't think it's cool. I love him, and he loves me. My parents approved and his did too. God chose him for me and we have been together since I was 13. And no I don't think I have "swag". I have the love of my life though. But some people just don't understand. But I know my relationship is going to last sooo.😊
Kinz_Michael
Answered Jul 03, 2013
A lot of younger girls think it's romantic that an older guy is with them, others find it risky and therefore exciting (stupid I know), others think it makes them a catch or mature to be able to say they pulled a guy so much older than them, but they just don't realize that a lot of the time it's a creep or a manipulator trying to use them for their own disgusting gain and pleasures. They're naive, rebellious teenagers and they'll realize it at some point, just hopefully not when it's too late to learn from the lesson.
InsistMischief
Answered Jul 03, 2013
Idk how to do this,I'm 15years old I have had sex with my bf about 4or 5 times ,first time I bled a little same with second and third,but not alot he didn't even know just a tiny bit,I'm also on birth control, on Thursday Iissed my pill,Friday I was spotting an I didn't know why so I took both my pills no biggie didn't think anything of it on Saturday we had sex andy cherry finally popped and the condom had blood on it , I'm like ew whatever,but Sunday I was bleeding like I was on my period and today I am still bleeding like I'm on my period but I still have 5 pills left so idk I'm scared ! My parents don't know I've had sex there very strict about that stuff so I don't want them knowing and I can't go to. Doctor cause they will ask why..help me ...it might be my body getting used
Knk
Answered Apr 28, 2014
Its always "cool" to date a senior ..
Maybe that's why children underage date adults . when I was in school I thought like that .. maybe still kids think like that .. but now when I have grown up , I don't wanna date anyone underage .. and I am kinda attracted to older guys .. maybe because I have always dated guys older then me ..
Actually the problem is with adults .. if they don't seduce the kid they will never fall in first place .. they know the consequences and they knows children underage are stupid . kids will do anything without thinking .. they are stubborn and wanna be a grown up . adults take advantage of it .. I wish its illegal in my country too .. but sadly unless there is no sex involved its okay here !!
wonderwoman
Answered Jan 25, 2015
Different reasons. Lots of people think age doesn't matter. Lots of teenage girls are attracted to men in their 20's and 30's. There are girls who think older men are more respectful or something (they really just know how to make girls think that). Lots of girls want a guy who has a lot of experience. Some girls like the idea of being with a married man. Then other times it just kind of happens and they don't plan it.
RainInTheWinter
Answered Jul 28, 2016
I totally agree but it's up to them. They may think there's more maturity in older man. They may think it's cool or fun. As a 18 year old I understand how stupid that is.
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