Why date someone over 18 if you're underage?

There are so many questions on this site about younger teens dating someone over 18, as in men in their 20s and 30s. When I was in high school, I was super focused on earning a full-ride to college, so I have no insight into why an underage teen would even want to do this.

Is there something "cool" about it? Do people not realize it's statutory rape punishable by jail time, etc.? What gives? Why does this keep coming up?

I think they don't realize the consequences of it. In my experience, some of them have done it so the person who was over 18 could buy them alcohol or cigarettes. I believe that the main part is they simply lack common sense. The day I turned 18 I knew that I would never try to date someone underage because I knew the problems it would cause, and I think it's just disgusting to.

Part of the problem is this upcoming generation, a good part of them, they are wanting to party and have fun. They don't think about the consequences of their actions. They believe that with someone who is 18 or older they can buy things that are illegal for them to have so they create a relationship with them.

I think not enough experience in life to make good decisions. They are children. Children don't make good decisions yet because of lack of experience. That's why they need decent parents. I have to wonder, where are the parents? Who's watching these kids? I never would have gotten away with this, and my dad would have called the cops on the guy. I would have been lucky if that was ALL he did.

well...like me and a lot of other people age does not matter...people are just doing what they do and being happy and living the time...they don't worry about the consequences...u get me??

i see were your coming from.all im intrested in is my exams thats why being single at the moment is the best option.i think they feel it makes them look "cool" infront of thier friends or somnetimes just the constant need for attention really.

Answering this question from experience and what I have seen from other girls in my school I would have to say that between the age of 13 and 16 is a major time for any teen girl.
It is at this time people are discovering their sexuality and usually girls more than boys get their claws into anyone who shows interest in them and they son't care about age, what type of rape it is or the consequences of their "relationships". I am like you I have only had one girlfriend (currently still with her) and I am completely focoused on getting the grades I want and need to get into university. Kids these days don't care about that stuff they just want attention, sex and a family before they have "passed it". Keep in mind that there are a handful of teens out there who do have common sense and genuinely have feelings for these older men/women and wait untill they are of a legal age to continue or begin a sexual relationship with thier partners. I hope I helped a little bit.

Well to me I think their more mature than the guys your age and they know how to treata girl. But I never dated a guy over 18. I am currently dating a guy my age =]

Well I think that most of the girls who are dating these older men are having emotional problems and to them, these men are helping/loving to the girl...but I think from the man's side of view-It's a GREAT opportunity to take advantage of that girl...even if it's just having someone younger with them...but where I live-it's illegal to date someone who's over 18 if that person is under 18..so ya:)

coz they think its cool to lose there u no wat but its not u should do it with some one u love and trust

yes , its definately a cool thing for them . personally , I dont see what is so fascinating or "cool" about it , but maybe it be some sort of way of rebeling their parents or something ? I dont know . hope this helps .

im thirteen and I hope im one of the sensible ones its revolting to me to do that and they do it cause they think it cool or cuz o peer presure

I am marrying some one four years older than me if I were in my teens would I love him less? That said I think if the People truly love each-other they don't need to endanger the older one by being together yet, If it is real love it will wait.

True love will wait and try to be responsible.
Young teen girls think life is just a game and do realize what love is.
Even guys in their 20's and 30's they think its a piece and just going for it. They do not realize its someones daughter; a breathing human being. they don't treat
her as a human, they treat her as a sex toy and an object. And girls tend to let guys make a fool out of them and don't realize it they expect to be what people want them to be including media. They fail to realize who they are because they choose to hang out with people who do not accept them for them. People get desperate for wrong reasons and then get people in trouble also.

Young people need to focus on school but they wont thus they have to learn the hard way like we all do.

Too many people come from broken families and media that does not teach them the truth in love.

I believe what is the point of marriage? Now? Because all people do is have 3 ways and cheat. Why get married?

I do not even think people know what love and marriage means anymore.

I am shocked to see how many people use love when they do not.
It doesn't matter young or old.
It's crazy.
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I will be doing a relationship survey soon.

To be honest though, sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with...and I mean real love not the petty stuff that 13/14 year olds claim to know (no offense intended) My best friend (19) is one of the sweetest guys you'd ever meet and he's completely in love with another one of our friends (16) and has been since me and him were in year 12. I think, as long as it's a relationship that isn't sex, alcohol or drugs, go for it...If you both like each other for the right reasons...Her parent's fully support the idea because they know he has her best interests at heart. They weren't supportive of it when they first met (cause she was 14 at the time and we were 17), but they've said now if anything were to happen they'd support it.

Just a question though - over here in Australia it's only illegal to have sexual relationships with someone under the age of 16, is it actually illegal for someone over the age of 18 to be the person's boyfriend/girlfriend over where you are?

Well personally I don't get the big deal u guys make out of it. Yes some people may use each other and I'm not saying that's right. But what about us people out there who just plain love each other for who they are, not for what the other person can give them like cigs or alchol? I'm in love with a 19 year old, and I have feelings that he loves me back. We are not going to do any sex or anything like that.As far as I know you will NOT go to jail unless the guy and girl start having sex. Kissing, cuddling, hugging etc.. will not send you to jail. I'm sorry but I'm just saying, you people are pre-juding.

I am 20 years old and I have been with my fiance 5 years now. we met when I was 15. he was 22! I have always been VERY mature for my age. I never really got to be a child, so guys my age were out of the question, as they mature slower anyways. I never would have imagined an age difference like that. I always dated older guys but had my limits. Never would I have considered a 22yr old with me at 15. I think it all depends. I was a vergin when we got together and I made him wait a while before that ever changed. I think it depends on the maturity of the younger person, and what the older person has on his/her mind. and I dont think its for cigs of alchol. if kids want cigs/drugs/booze now days they can get it. trust me. I was in high school not too long ago.

they think that older people are hotter ,God knows why, but they also think that other people there age just arent intresting or they think they love the person or they think they are too mature for people there age

im 16 and I date a 26 year old man. I fell in love with him the first time I saw him and hes the only person that understands me. my mom beats me and my dad dose drugs. ,my mom has sold my body to strange men for years and I have never said a word because shes my mom. I came into contact with my lover a few years ago and at first we were just friends. he didnt buy my any illegal things. now im pregnant by him and we realize that we have made a mistake but we are dealing with it in an adult way.

well some people call it love but it is true it's serious jail time for the older person :/ but you can't help no loving somebody haha