Joining a gang?

My cousins and friends want me to join there gang. (crips) I never thought about it before. Since im a girl to join the gang I would have to get jumped or I would have to get sexed in. I want to make my friends and family proud. But I dont want to dedicate my life to a gang. What should I do?

What is it about being a member of a gang that would make "your friends and family proud?" Is it getting into a group that essentially anybody can get into? Is it the public service they provide the neighborhood? Maybe the prestige you will get from the other inmates?

In my family, college is not optional. We are expected to earn Ivy League undergrad and prof/grad degrees. I don't know the FIRST thing about an environment that presents gang membership as a viable life choice! I could not be more alien to your world.

What I do know is that I have a close friend who was presented with the same choice as a teenager in South Chicago. He said no. He went on to college. He's leading a very happy life as a husband and father, and is doing well in his professional life. He did all this without turning his back on his family, and they are very proud of him.... plus they seem to have a need to have someone legit get them out of jail from time to time.

Look for other options in life.

Would they not be proud of you for living a happy, productive life outside of the gang? Are there any other family traditions you could participate in?

You said "But I dont want to dedicate my life to a gang." Trust your instinct.

gangs go ham all it is a family wit...guns...drugs

Ok look I know absolutley nothing about gangs so I will tell you what I do when I have to make a tough decision. I go with what I think will benefit me in the long run. You yourself have stated that you don't want to dedicate your life to a gang so it sounds like you are not completely convinced by this proposition your cousin and friends have put forward to you. I personally say don't do it, however whatever you choose I wish you luck with it.

im going to give you my honest opinion .do it.a gang is like a second family there for you alll the time thier people you can rely on.but thats what I did

do what you want, don't listen to these people, they have no idea what kind of gang you are thinking of joining, and asking this question you should know that everbody is biased one way or another, one person will say "DO IT!! IT'S AWESOME" and another will say "DON'T DO IT! IT'S TERRIBLE!!" when I need to make a personal, life changing decision, I consult myself, and my morals.

Actually You Dont have To Get Fuxked In Only Jumped In Or Fouqht In By A Girl In a Different Ganq Like I Did Because Nobody That Was In The Ganq I Was Getinq In Didnt Want To Fiqht Me.