Downhill, and I don't know what to do

see, i've fallen for someone recently. and it was all beautiful. the chasing part especially. because the chemistry was there. I was happy, she was too, I can tell. it has flowers written all over, it was special. I don't know what happened but things went downhill after. but it's okay. I mean, I am trying to get over her. but see, she wouldn't let me go. she knows she has this certain privilege on me where i'll let her in anytime she wants to. like if i'm in the middle of something, i'll throw everything aside just because she suddenly feel like talking to me. I try not too, I mean i'm trying to forget her no? I know she just wants us to stay friends but the things is, I still have feelings for her, it wouldn't slide, not even a bit. and talking to her - not helping for me to move on. am I weak for letting her use me like that?
plainconfusing
Asked Apr 27, 2011
I don't know if you're weak, but you're definitely human. And it sounds like things went downhill because the infatuation wore off.

If you're still dropping things for her (which is treating her like a girlfriend), that tells her that she is still a priority in your life and there could be a chance for you to get back together. If you believe there is no chance that you want to be with her, then you have to be clear. Don't lead her on.
skyDancer
Answered Apr 27, 2011
i guess so. maybe it did wore off for her.
i'm not dropping hints or anything. or leading her on. but she keeps coming back. for example, she said the other day she wanted to buy me dinner whenever im free. I said okay, but when I thought about it, I decided I shouldn't. so I kept low for a while. then she came back out of nowhere talking to me as if nothing happened.. of course she'll still be my priority for now, I still like her. but I know I can move on while having these feelings bc I know with time it'll go away. but with her constant sudden appearance, not helping.
but yeah, I think im just weak. guess I need to avoid her until im sure im over her.
You may not be dropping hints, but every time she knocks on the door, you open it. If she's just trying to maintain a friendship, that's one thing. But if she's trying to make opportunities to get back together, then it's something else. I would say you should talk to her to make sure she is abundantly clear that you don't want a romantic relationship. Tell her you still talk to her because you want to be friends only. Make sure she gets it. I'm not there, and I don't know either of you, so I can't read the signals... but you should be clear that she's not hoping for a second chance.
the thing is I don't know what is she trying to do. oh well, she could just be playing around since i'm too weak to say no to her. I just wanted to play nice, I hope she'll get it soon enough *sigh*
it'll be hard to let her go you know. I don't usually fall for someone. it's just not me. so ermm..oh well.
btw, thanks for the advices :)

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