Why do my wife gets very angry when I ask her where she have lost her virginity?

why do my wife gets very angry when I ask her where she have or when she have lost her virginity, why is she not open with me because we are already married-couple. is she raped I am confused. what do you think answer me plz?
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Asked Apr 22, 2011

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The short answer is that it's not something you really need or even want to know.

That said, a lot of people talk more openly about it, so it could indicate she was young/old, that the person was somehow inappropriate (old, a family member), that the circumstances were odd (the above answerer mentioned rape, which is always possible).

But there is no reason to assume any of those things. It's just the sort of conversation that often leads to problems!
Answered Apr 23, 2011
That certainly doesn't mean she was raped and if that is the case, it's wouldn't be her fault. Some people want to leave the past in the past. Also, some who ask questions like that don't stop at a one sentence question. The answer to where and when turns into more questions and finally requires a play by play description.

If the two of you get close enough, I suspect sometime in the future she will feel comfortable talking about it. In the meantime, how will your life be any different if you know the answer?

Answered Apr 23, 2011
It sounds like she just doesn't want to talk about it. It's something in her past that probably has no bearing on your current relationship, so she's entitled to not want to discuss it. Maybe it's more important to ask why it's so important to you to know that you're willing to make her upset about it. Maybe she thinks you're sending her signals that you think she's untrustworthy or immoral. Maybe she's getting offended by your questions.
Answered Apr 23, 2011
Edited Apr 23, 2011
She thinks its too private to tell you, keep working on it, but dont be too pushy
Answered Sep 13, 2013
im only 13 but id think that her first experiance was great but regretted it a lot for some reason.
Answered Sep 19, 2013

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