Is avoiding her gonna help?

So, I really like this girl I could almost say I'm inlove with her but were not dating so I guess I can't say that I: Well I figured if I avoid her and not ggive her my attention she would want my attention sooner or later. Should I keep doing this or not? And it looks like she got a boyfriend ): .. but the thing is I don't know if she likes me I'm too afraid to ask her.. (you'll know what I'm talking about if you read my other questions about her <3 lol, oh and she's gonna tell my bestfriend if she really is going out with this guy) well thanks if you answered
curls
Asked Apr 18, 2011
Your avoiding her might help you understand how she feels about you but I doubt it will do much to change the way she feels if she isn't into your idea.

There is a big difference between finding someone attractive and being "in love." The difference is the first can be done by yourself alone and the second requires two people.
Rob
Answered Apr 19, 2011
okay thanks Rob
curls Apr 19, 2011
"Well I figured if I avoid her and not ggive her my attention she would want my attention sooner or later" sounds like manipulation. No relationship or friendship is on stable ground if it starts out like that.
skyDancer
Answered Apr 19, 2011
So your saying , I shouldn't avoid her?
curls Apr 19, 2011
I'm saying you shouldn't avoid her solely in an attempt to manipulate her feelings, like making her want you more. If you want to avoid her because you feel like you need to do that to protect your feelings or to help you get over her, etc., that's different.

Anytime you do something to try to "make" someone feel the way you want them to feel, it's manipulation. That's not a respectful or honest way to relate to others.
dont avoid her.past and present exsperience it does not turn out wellthey either start to think something is wrong or you lose your freindship because you ddrift apart.the only way to know if she likes you is to ask her

from my exsperince I cheated on my girlfreind we still like each other but we dont speak no more because she is avoiding me.and im avoiding some day were going to bump into each other but this is not the best way
abbie_ Apr 20, 2011
Yeah its both I'm trying to get over her and manipulate her. But I guess I won't avoid her Thank you skyDancer and abbie_ I think I learned something :)
curls Apr 20, 2011
i agree dont avoid her
Abrii Apr 21, 2011

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