Help what should I do about my dad?!

Okay I'm a 14 year old girl and my dad he's like bi polar or something well anyways he always finds a way to blame me and my sister for everything?! Well anyways I know me and my sister can make him piss sometimes but its like for dumb reason like I wouldn't clean up my room or something like that ..he's so annoying too and he always calls me and my sis sluts , hoes , prostuite, dumba$$es , and all those bad words you can think of my sis is 16 ..yes I do have a mom. She helps but I think this is just out of control he says he'll never change and all that stuff .. What should I do about my dad should we take family therpay or something or should I what? I don't think this is normal ? Yes me and my sis might be rude to him and mean to him sometimes cause he calls us stuff and yeah so please help me!

verbal abuse is still abuse. Your Dad and whole family would benefit from therapy. In the meantime call a domestic abuse hot line. they are free and will talk to u about the verbal abuse your Dad is doing to u and ur sister. If u do not get help from one person there (some of them are just volunteers and may not know) but they should be able to refer you to a counselor. There is more needed to be known here, is he abusive to ur Mom or just to u girls?? THis is no way to talk to young teen girls. Please tell trusted adults, school nurse or counselor, abuse hot line, etc until u find some one who will listen. If Dad wont go to therapy, I would advise any family member who will, to go.. this is not right , your family needs help badly.

Step back and look at what's going on here. Your dad has expectations on how you should act so he becomes frustrated when you don't act that way. You have expectations of how a dad should act and you become frustrated when he doesn't act that way.

The key word to avoid the frustrations is, "accept." You aren't going to change him but you can accept the idea that his view of how a room should look and how a teenager should act are different than yours so arguing is a waste of time. Do a reasonable job at keeping your room clean and most of all, do a killer job with your schoolwork because that's the key to you getting out of this situation. The better you do with your schoolwork, the sooner you will be able to support yourself.

Don't get hung up on blaming your problems on someone else. We don't get a choice of the parents we get but we get millions of choices on how we run our own lives. If you accept your dad for who he is and make the absolute best choices for yourself, you will do fine.

I would say stop intentionally provoking your dad. Clearly, pouring gasoline on that flame isn't helpful to anyone.

I'm not there, so I don't know the context and I can't say if that's really verbal abuse or not. If it is verbal abuse, then him saying he'll never change is unacceptable. Part of being an adult is learning to control your impulses.

Still, if there's an issue with a child's grades/room/behavior, the appropriate and responsible way for the parent to address that is through discipline, not insults and humiliation. There is no good or healthy reason to "accept" insults and humiliation. And, you shouldn't have to act any certain way to protect yourself insults and humiliation. It's just not appropriate. And that could lead to unhealthy patterns in your adult life.

Talk to your mom. Tell her how you feel about your dad calling you and your sister "sluts , hoes , prostuite, dumba$$es". Ask her to help you. If she refuses to intervene, talk to another trusted adult.