Is my 13 year old son gay?

For the last 3-4 yrs. my son, now 13, has had crushes on a few girls...pretty strong crushes..(the last one was just last summer) Last night he tells me thinks he is gay because a boy in his class makes him have an erection when he looks at him. He also has become friends recently with a gay teenage boy,who is almost 17 yr. old. I think this 17 yr. old likes my son. My son is masterbating allthe time...which I told him is quite normal. He thought doing that meant he was gay too.
I told him that getting an erection easily is very common with teenage boys too. I also told him that all of this does not make him gay...and that if he was..I'd love him anyway. I am worried that he is making a quick judgement on being gay...I think he is too young to know right now and is experimenting. If you saw how he acted when he liked these girls...you would know why I feel this way. What do you think? gay or not? I think he should see how he feels as he gets older. Maybe he is bisexual?

I think the best thing here would be to have a sit down one to one conversation about how sexuality is not all black and white. You have to realise that he is a teenager, his hormones will be going crazy and he will be extremely confused at the moment. If you don't want to talk to him take him to a sexual health expert or therapist if he is not handling it very well but my final words to you are just please, please be patient and gentle with him. He needs your support right now x I hope this helped.

sallam,tell ur son all tht things r not good 4 his health,tell him tht complete ur study first if u get higher edu u got every thing.

lol I know ritee...whatt??? any way I think that ur son is simply at a difficult stage in life, it most like is just his hormones, then again it may not be...n yes tell him that its perfectly normal...what he chooses to be no matter what is all great...i know ull still be there for him...ur a great mom... :)

Maybe your son is bi-sexual who knows, I used to get erections in class too when I was a round my mates, cos there was something about them that got me aroused, but you are right in saying its a teenage thing with mr winky popping up and down like god knows what when your that young. I know hes your son, but if you are concerned about him being gay, then maybe having him around the 17 year old is not such a good idea, as he has already made up his mind what he is, besides with your son being 13 if anything should happen sexually it is illegal.... Just let your son be who he is and don't interferr, my parents did that I hated them for it.

he gets boners around guys and girls thats normal take him away from the 17yo

If it is too early for him to know if he is gay or not, be patient and he will sort it out. Counseling might be helpful. You've done the best thing by reassuring him of your love, no matter what. That makes you his touchstone as he goes through this confusion, and you can be of immense help to him. Keep him away from the 17 year-old, though. It isn't a matter of being gay, it is a matter of child molestation if there is sexuality between an early teen and a 17 year old. He doesn't need that added problem. See if you can find a young peoples group guided by a professional that explores sexuality. DO NOT TAKE HIM TO A FUNDAMENTALIST GAY CURE GROUP, if he really is gay, it could cause terrible harm to him.