My Hubby has foot/shoe fetish which has got out of hand now destroying our marrige HELP!

I married my hubby in December 2010,knowing he had a shoe fetish but it got to the point where he wanted me to wear shoe and tights every time we made love,i could not handle this as I felt it wasn't me that turned him on but now he takes to looking at other women's shoes in the street and now I have got to the stage where I wont even go out with him,we have to turn dinner invites down because I told him if I see him doing it again im walking away,but he says he cant trust himself so we don't go.. I feel it is taking over both our lives now and I cant cope with this any more ! he told me 3 weeks ago he was going to get help but done nothing about this ???????
Asked Feb 16, 2011
Edited Feb 16, 2011
I have the exact same problem as your husband and I tell you its hell , you know how dificult it is to constantly look at ladies shoes ,and not the person this kills me and if there was anything I could do to remove these feelings I would , .and I dont know how to deal with it , I wish I could go back in time and start a fresh this fetish has caused me to do stupid things and loose countless opertunitys of love , its somthing I have to live with , my wife is very understanding and we have been together for 16 years now, she has put up with a lot and Im very thankful for that ,it is very imbarising to even mention this ,but you know if I removed this fetish , then I wouldnt be me , and I probably wouldnt be with my beautiful understanding wife so somthing must be right ..he has to be willing to come half way , compremise every now and then its worked so far

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When a person has a behavior that excites them sexually, it is very difficult for them to confront the problem and change. Those issues are far more difficult than the typical behavorial changes we go through like losing weight or quitting smoking.

He has a very tough choice to make and if he doesn't do it, then you have one that is equally as tough. You need to draw a line in the sand on his going for help and most important, stick to it. If he gets the idea you're not serious, you chances will evaporate. It may take some time living alone for him to clearly realize what his options are.
Answered Feb 16, 2011
I totally agree.
rob is 100% correct,i had a fteish with wanting my gf to like lesbian porn...and it got out of control and is very hard to stop..basically she cut me off and I finally learned to let it go
Answered Feb 23, 2011
I don't think that there's enough info to give good advice here. Ending a marriage if he doesn't stop his fetish may be a bit much. And for someone to recommend that you do is wrong. Can it be that you are overreacting? Maybe not, but with what you write nobody can tell. Millions of people love feet. Most probably are guys and most guys probably won't admit it. Most guys are turned on by women. Some like some parts of a woman's body more than others. He likes feet. So what. Therefore he likes your feet. I bet he loves your feet because he loves you. Maybe talk to him because you are starting to feel that he is using you for your feet only. I bet he isn't. But, he then may start paying attention more to things that are important to you. I'm not saying that you are right or wrong but please know that he is by far not the only one like this. Maybe it is that he is just very honest and open with you not knowing that you want him to hide it a bit??? Just my 2 cents
Answered Oct 16, 2011
I am a man with a fetish for feet in nylon and shoes. I recently met someone I love very much. after a while she worked out that I was turned on by her feet in nylon and at first indulged me somewhat. When you have been hiding something like this most of your life, to find someone who seems to understand is amazing. I too made the child in the sweetshop mistake and asked for it all of the time, giving her the impression that the nylons and shoe mattered more than her, which was not the case. If you love him tell him that you will try to understand but it is to be a part of a fuller sex life and that you need tobe made to feel special for all sorts of reasons not just your feet or shoes. I have had this fetish all my life and I can tell you that no amount of "help" will stop him being attracted to feet. If this disgusts you so much that it has changed the way you fell about him then you may have gto end your marriage. If however you can learn to compromise and incorporate this into your sex lives on your terms, then you may find an answer.

Incidentally my partner and I are now very happy I now show her that I am attracted to her in every way and she has found that she actually enjoys the fact that her feet hold su8ch power over me.

I wish you both all the best.
Answered Dec 23, 2011
I think uknylonfoot has some very good advice. When you draw the line in the sand as Rob suggested, make sure you draw it close to the waters edge.

To shed some intelligent and interesting light on the subject, I suggest reading the book titled "THE SEX LIFE OF THE FOOT AND SHOE" by William A. Rossi. ISBN # 0-89464-573-0 (HARD COVER) or ISBN # 0-89464-756-3 (PAPERBACK).

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Answered Jan 25, 2012
Edited Jan 25, 2012
I too have a nylon high heel fetish for as long as I can remember, And can tell you that it will always be a part of me, I am happily married, Any relationship is a combination of love, understanding, and mutual respect that grows, and when you look at a person you have to look at the whole package, good and bad cause no one is perfect, and its the good points about someone we admire and love, A shoe nylon fetish is a extremely common fetish and many many men have it, heels drive men nuts, why else would women wear em, lol, and there are many many more extreme fetishis out there, heels and nylon being one of the more harmless ones, My wife complained of me "Gawking" before and I make a point not to, at least not obviously, It is respect, But all men do look, Its in our DNA!, Our sex life is fantastic, and we compromise, not nylon as often, save that for a treat, like if I make her a nice dinner, but she doesnt care bout the heels, And loves haveing a awesome shoe collection, We talk about it all the time and it helps, good communication is the key, this is both our second marriages and I can tell when she is not in the mood, I know when not to push it, and just admire her for the awesome person she is! I am 47 years old and for the longest time suppressed my fetish but believe me that is not the answer, we keep it private as it should be, Hope this Helps, Skylark!!
Answered Feb 01, 2012
Please, I need advice! I am dating a wonderful man whom I love so dearly and want to spend the rest of my life with. He has a foot fetish, with which I am completely accepting of, or so I think? He recently admitted to me that he views "foot porn" when I am not around. He has a huge picture gallery of pictures of my feet in all different ways, but he still looks for other pictures on the web. I feel betrayed in that he is looking for stimulus from other places when I give him everything he has ever asked or wanted. Why does he need this? Am I not enough?
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Answered Apr 18, 2012
Hi.... there.... I'm varman 24 years old from Malaysia. I have this feet fetish since my childhood. During that time I got many elderly cousin girls feet which I used to worship them. But as I, grow I noticed they find thier boy frenz and go far away from me. At the same time, I also unable to find out a girl who can my accept my fetish. My question is, is there got chance to experience divorce problem in future if I get married...? For time being I just keep on enjoying watch video in you tube under the title feet slave, feet sniffing, feet humiliation, nylon sniffing then I masterbate and let the cum pour out.
Answered May 27, 2013
People a foot fetish, Foot fetishism, foot partialism, foot worship, or podophilia is a “pronounced” sexual interest/need in Feet/footwear. It is the most common fetish of all others, Fact is, a fetish (means to worship), A person that has the fetish has a 24/7 preoccupation with it, it’s an addiction, an compulsion, a need, an obsession, fixation, passion, fascination, obsession, so if you’re the partner of a person with a foot fetish, you either have to accept it, otherwise it’s time to move on (but it does not mean if he/she is fixated on your feet, he/she mentally isn’t in love with you, or doesn’t desire you, that in my case is far from the truth with my spouse. I myself have a foot/shoe fetish, I’ve done the 3 years, 3 days a week counseling with a Doctor who was the most well-known, and who specialized in all types of Fetishisms/perversions. I have not changed, but do understand myself and the fetish much better, plus, It’s a big part of my personality, so with that said, If you can’t except it, you and your spouse/significant other have hit a cross road and must make a serious decision. But try to understand it so, your relationships outcome is positive.
Answered May 16, 2016

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