I'm 14 & I'm dating a 24 Year Old. Our relationship is becoming a little to sexual?

I'm 14 & My boyfriend of 3 years is 24. We are deeply in love. He loves me and I love him. His personality is great. We have had sex before but only once. He now likes to talk about sex a little to much. We kiss & I have slept in the same bed as him without having sex. I really love him & I never wanna lose him. He is my everything & I am his everything. What should I do? Have sex with him so we can stay together?

If you are so concerned about the two of you staying together, what do you intend to do while he serves his 20 years in prison? There is no state in the US where sex between a 14 and a 24 year old isn't considered felony rape regardless of whether the minor consents or not.

Okay, number one, you have problems.

You said he's your boyfriend of 3 years, who is 24. You're 14. Three years ago, that means an 11 year old was dating a 21 year old. This can be called sexual harassment. Considering on what country you live in, your parents can have this person arrested.

This is also completely unsafe. At your age, what you look for in a relationship is not what a 24 year old man is looking for. He wants to settle down, have a family, buy a house. You aren't out of school yet, unless you're a dropout. The age is way too far apart for anything to happen safely. And you have to realize, if you don't want him anymore, and he still wants you, you can be overpowered, raped, or even killed.

Best thing is to stay away from sex, even with a condom. It is completely understandable that a 14 year old girl shouldn't have sex with a 24 year old man.

If anyone sees this answer who has a similar or different opinion, please comment. Speak some reason into this girl.

I have to say that it's REALLY bad that at 21 he wanted to date an 11-year old. Look at it this way, you were HALF his age then.

Now, first of all, you shouldn't be thinking that sex is the only way to make a person want to stay with you. That's a really unhealthy way of thinking, and I really hope he hasn't put that in your head. Sex is not the currency of relationships.

Secondly, and more importantly, I think you should not be with this man at all. The two of you are in COMPLETELY different places in life, and hold COMPLETELY different ways of thinking. You're not compatible at all. You may not want to hear it, and I hope you try to understand, but it seems a lot like he took advantage of your young age and impressionability and made you dependent on his presence. Made you think that you love him. Maybe not even with really horrible intentions, but he's still taking advantage of you, and it's likely going to stunt you, emotionally. I hope you leave him safely, and bring him to the attention of the authorities.

these people are small minded how can they judge your realenship with out knowing you both? okay 11? may be quite young but if you agreeing to sex and using condom nothing wroung with that? if you really dont want to say your on your period or something or just give him head good luck xx

You are soooooo lucky you're not my kid!!! Ok... 2 maybe 3 year difference would be ok but a 10 year difference.... How do you have anything in common!?!?! Mohawk651 made some very good points! At 14 years old you shouldn't be concerned with pleasing someone who is 10 years older than you! You should be out hanging with friends.... This boyfriend of yours, There is something seriously wrong with him!!!!! Open your eyes and move on!!! When you're 25 years old and you still can't get your mind off of him.... look him up! By then at least you'll have something in common with each other!!!!

I'm sorry I have one question, is this a boy-man relationship? I looked at your profile and it says you are a 14 year old male. Am I right? I agree that this is rape but it appears that you have been "convinced" that it is not. Was this someone who may have took advantage of your innocensce in the beginning? Was he your first? I need to know this first too better answer you.

Sounds like a nice relationship.
But relationships are about what you both like, a bit of give a take if you will.
You should let him know that its ok to talk about sex, just keep it to a few times a week.

Ok, let's look at this from another perspective.

Let's talk about what YOU are doing.

There's this thing called "statutory rape." It means, "Sexual activities where one participant is below the age required to legally consent [18] to the behavior, although it usually refers to adults engaging in sex with minors under the age of consent [18]."

You need to understand that this is illegal in every US state, and nearly every other country.

Here's what would happen to this boyfriend you love so deeply:

1. Anyone convicted of statutory rape who gets out of prison will forever be branded as a "felony child sex offender."

2. IF the person gets out of jail, s/he will have to register with the FBI's national registry and with the local police EVERY TIME they move.

3. Depending on the state, the person cannot live within certain distances of a school or day care center.

4. Their photo, home address, and description of their crime goes into online databases like https://www.neighborhoodscan.com/ so people can know what convicted sexual predators live in their community.

5. They have to declare that they were convicted of a sex crime EVERY TIME they apply for a job or apply to rent an apartment. Most employers won't hire them, and landlords wouldn't want to go anywhere near them, meaning that if they get out of prison they will have a hard time making a living and finding a place to live.

6. If a judge were to look at your situation, s/he wouldn't see a "relationship" but an incident of "child sexual abuse."

7. You also need to understand that the penalties are much harsher in most states when the adult is over 21 and the minor is under 16. These penalties vary from 10 years to life in prison.
(Learn more: http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/rpt/2003-r-0376.htm)

8. No judge would show your boyfriend leniency because you consent, because no court recognizes that you are old enough to consent.

9. Child sex predators are reviled and hated; they judge would give your boyfriend the harshest penalty in order to protect you and other children. Even fellow inmates would give him hell for that.

YOU MUST UNDERSTAND THESE VERY SERIOUS CONSEQUENCES, and this is just the tip of the iceberg. Your boyfriend would endure a lifetime of hardship and suffering, and rightfully so.

Is THIS the life you want for someone you love?

If you *love* your boyfriend so deeply (never mind if you have any love for yourself), then you MUST END THIS TODAY. If he pursues you, tell your parents, a teacher, or a guidance counselor.

if he really loves you, you can get engaged to the time you can make a home, a family, else, it will be just a wondering love ( false ) & a full sex life.
pahajj@bdl.gov.lb

wow 14..your timimg is off sweet heaart.You shouldn't be having sex at your age you should even be dating anyone at that age.Understand this if a man want to date a child there is something wrong with his head ...He can easily minipulate you ..I've heard of lots of situations like this and 2 things end up happening you end up pregnat and you in up dating him just for the baby sakes.You end up trapand have to grow up fast.You miss your friends and you want to hang out but you cant.even if you could he would end up jealouscause you want to have fun so he ends up beating you.and mentally ausing you .Trust me these situations always starts off good but end bad.STAY AWAY FROM HIM.

ITS A TERRIBLE IDEA NEVER DATE OR HAVE SEX AT THAT AGE!!!! if your a guy or a girl its bad on your health,life and so on and anyone who someone dates that one that much younger than them is messed up in th head

Wtf that's messed up your 14 he's 24 that's considered rape and he doesnt love you he probaly just some pervert who wants to see a kid naked who knows he might of had sex with some other girl before and get harpies or some other S.T.D and if u think that sex is the only way to make someone love you forever your wrong he could just sex u then leave. The only way someone will actually love forever is if they are really the right person for u in other words the same age as u or close not a 10 year difference. And you might want to look at the police website and search his name or just look him up anywhere on the Internet cause he has some problems and you are going to need to think about what it will do to your body. Kids who are tricked easily like you are, are the most commonly raped killed or kidnapped

i like your point of view mohawk!!

I'm in love with a 22 yr. old man and I'm 14. Luckly I had a good upbringing and so did he. We both do that kind of dance thing where we know we like each other but can't admit it. I can see that look in his eyes like: I like you. But he holds back and doesn't ask me out because he knows better. We both do. You should just barely be dating, but having sex? And while your a minor? I'm telling you now to White fang him. If you really love him let him go because you could get him sent to jail.
Answer: Don't give him what he wants. A man should love you for you, not for your sex or your body.

Yeah omg I'm 14yr old boy, I would love to be with a girl that was in her twenties! And it's not just cuz boys have those fantasies maybey girls have them with older guys also. The only reason that ppl freak out when they see a underage girl with an older man is cuz I guess men are over-powering or something because I know that if your son said I wanna have sex with older women u wouldn't care butt NO NO NO if a girl says she wants to have sex with a older man you slap her in the face, am I right??????

well, go ahead FUCK the living shit out of him, have fun! Get caught.... your life is over- u can kiss his ass to jail and you will never be the same. At least fuck someone your own age or better yet wait until you can consent. continue to touch yourself for two years; is it really that long. YOU CAN"T be that horny. WHY Give your body to an asshole. Make him wait- he shouldn't even be touching you.

WAKE UP- NO girls pussy should be fucked before there at least 16

Ok guys I'm 13 and I'm with a 19 year old guy for over a year. Stop harassing this girl I know what she is talking about. I know exactly how she feels. The age is only a number, she loves him, he loves her that's all that matters. So, chill out and think before you speak.