Why did my shy crush and her mom do these things?

I was over her house recently to hang out with her brother. When I first got there I could hear her voice, but I couldn't see her. Eventually, she showed her face and said what I thought was hello. Then she said "mom", who happened to be talking to me at the time, to try to get her attention.. At that point. I wasn't sure whether she really did say hi to me or just said mom twice. When I thought she said hi, I didn't look over right away (by the time I did, her attention was already on her mom.

Eventually, she called her brother and me in for dinner. Before we entered the kitchen, I heard her say something to her parents about me. At the dinner table, she sounded excited and kinda loud. I thought this was to get my attention (especially because at one point when she was done speaking, she glanced over at me), but she also behaves that way when I'm not around. At one point, I asked her if she wanted any salad. She just shook her head no. However, from what I can recall, she took salad from her parents. Also, a minor point of interest is that when I brought up a valid point about something, her mom jokingly told me to shut up.

That was the least of what her mom did. Right after dinner, her brother had to use the bathroom and I was off fiddling with my cell phone, From the front of the house, I heard her mom bring up the topic of a school dance that was going on that night. I heard her mention to her mom the friends that were going to be there. Then, she left the kitchen and went over to where I was. She said "excuse me" and I responded by saying "sure". Then I got out of her way and she went upstairs. Then her mom told her dad about the dance (which I thought was odd that she didn't tell him sooner).However, when she said this, she mentioned to him how she waited until I wasn't around to bring it up. Apparently she didn't realize I could hear her. When it was time to go, her mom and her left without saying a word either her brother or me. Then again, her mom didn't say much to her dad when it was time to pick her up either (again, they were the only 2 around when her mom left again).

Later on when my Dad came to pick me up, her mom didn't say anything to him about the dance either.Then her friend and her walked by to go up the stairs to bed. Her mom told the 2 of them to say hi to my dad and I. Only her friend responded and looked at me when she did. The whole time they were laughing a little bit.

Some of the signs I've seen that point to her liking me are: looking at me when I'm not looking at her (sometimes while giggling), mimicking me, tasking to people she knows about me, showing concern for me if she thinks I'm in trouble, (like if I have a bad cough), her friends act differently around me, sometimes she blushes around me, etc.

Why couldn't they have mentioned the dance around me? She's mentioned similar events around me before, such as the spring fling (which she brought up to my parents) and something about her getting a compliment for a "young man". Then again, I was distracted at those times. Besides, it's not like she was going with another guy and the whole thing was chaperoned. I would've asked her myself, but I don't go to her school. Only students from her school are allowed attend.
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked Jan 19, 2011
You answer your own question in the first sentence, "I was over her house recently to hang out with her brother." Parents with more than one kid separate visitors by who's friend they are. You are there under the guise of being a friend of their son when in fact you're eyeballing their daughter. What obligation do they have to do anything different with their daughter because you're there to see their son?


Rob
Answered Jan 20, 2011
Edited Jan 20, 2011
That's not it at all. I mean sure the apparent reason that I'm over there is to see their son, but they are well aware that I like their daughter and that she likes me back. I'm not saying that they should have told me about what their daughter is going to be doing. I just don't see why if they couldn't say anything about it around me. Like I already said, she doesn't have a boyfriend, just guys who are friends. In fact I heard her friend say one time that the girl considers me to be her boyfriend.

No, I think the REAL reason is that her mom didn't want to hurt my feelings or get any wrong ideas about the whole thing. However, I'm not completely sure. That's why I asked this question, to get someone elses interpretation. So far I'm regretting posting this question.
You may be right about her Mom's intentions. That just sounds like a typical day in a household with a number of agendas working at once. I'm sorry I don't read anything in your description that indicates, "she likes me back."

The people that reply to questions here provide honest answers but I'm sure they aren't always what the person asking the question wanted to hear.
Rob Jan 20, 2011
They aren't what they want to hear because they know the answers aren't the truth! The answers that people (from my own experience) don't want to hear usually have something to be desired. Like they don't get the gist or full scope of the question.

I'm glad we agree on somethings though. However, I specially dedicated a paragraph of my question to signs that she likes me. Maybe you missed that? I could go on and tell you more reasons that I know she likes me, but I would simply run out of room. Besides, I've been there, done that. I have been around her enough and seen plenty of signs to preceive my intuitions as fact. I don't need a crash course in "How to Tell if a Shy Girl Likes You". That's not what I came here for.
it sounds like she (the mom) didn't want you to feel left out, like, "oh she's going to a dance, and even if you wanted to, you couldn't come, so she just didn't mention it to you. just my opinion, and the girl probably likes you yeah.
gingerkid
Answered Jan 20, 2011
only one way to find out if she likes you go and ask if she does
shane2392
Answered Jan 21, 2011

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