Ineed sincere opinions!

Hi I really need help with my relationship and I though that having a general opinion would help me to figure out what is wrong. Im with my bf for about 2 years,and im mostly unhappy because I cant let go of him,but he treats me like nothing ,well wen we started all was great and I felt like the luckiest person ever,but then things started to change ,i found out things on is computer like videos of naked women that some girl sent to him,and other stuff on internet,he rarely takes me anywere, we dont live together he go out with his friends, doesnt do anything nice to suprise me , and apart from that he spends all day on internet and have this game thing were he leaves both laptops on during the night,im not perfect I know I complain about things,and sadly I have no friends in England so I feel so lost,but I cook for him take the food to him wen his playing,and I wash his clothes and iron them,and I give him all the love I can,but I complain and he says im unbalanced ,im so unhappy,my family always say how lovely I am and my friends in portugal and that I can have someone that can truly make me happy,but I dont know why I cant let it go,even being unhappy 99% of the time :(

Relationships that work require two people who are committed and are willing to contribute to making it work. From your description, that's no where close to what's going on there.

First, understand that what either of you SAY has nothing to do with commitment and contribution, it's what each of you DO that makes the difference. That says you need to both stop complaining to him and stop being his mother until he starts living up to his end of the relationship. If you do that he will either grow up or he will leave. If he decides to leave, that's smoking gun evidence that he had no commitment and you were simply being used.

The best sign of someone willing to make a commitment is a wedding ring. If this guy doesn't work out, consider that as a prerequsite on the next one. When you can get everything you want without making a commitment what incentive is there for him to do it?