What gender am I?

I don't know if I know exactly. I might be a boy or a girl. I've got all the gear of a male so I know that maybe biologically that's what I am. But I don't feel like a boy and never have? Is there some sort of gender option for "don't know" or "don't care." I think I might be a tomgirl, although I don't know what that is.

You are who you believe you are.

Believe in yourself and you will find who you are in time and for now don't worry about it :)

One of my degrees is in Womens' Studies, so quite a lot of my Ivy League education was devoted to gender issues. Your biology is not your identity. Gender identity is not limited to the male or female dichotomy.

Allow yourself the time and space to "meet" yourself on loving terms. Maybe you don't have to know right now. Maybe this is a process for you. Maybe it'll take time.

There are other religious communities--and even other Christian communities and practitioners (Unitarians, Quakers, etc.)--who could offer you a supportive, non-judgmental, safe environment to explore this with spiritual support IF THAT'S EVEN WHAT YOU WANT.

I hope you are not negatively impacted by judgments of anyone (of any religion or point-of-view), especially anyone who lectures about sin, goes the hell/fire/damnation route, or tells you that you should cleanse or reprogram your soul, or use prayer to force your mind into "matching" your body parts. You can just tell those people "thanks" and walk away. If you can't walk away, just be quiet no matter how they may provoke or anger you. Don't engage; it'll prolong the unpleasant encounter. Debating this goes no where, and you could be hurt very deeply in the process.

For this issue, I believe no one should tell you to pray to be changed. Praying for peace of mind and loving guidance is not the same thing as praying to be changed. Praying for peace of mind is very different than praying that whatever is "wrong" about you be "fixed." There's nothing "wrong" with you; there is nothing to be "fixed."

In real life, surround yourself with supportive people who don't force their judgments or religion (what ever it might be) on you. Those who do this, even if they mean well, could cause you psychological damage.

It would be great if you could meet others who are questioning their gender identity or sexual orientation as well. That would be great support for you.

If you decide to go to a therapist, look for one who identifies as LGBT, etc. That person will have helpful personal insights into your situation, and will create for you a safe space where you can figure this out for yourself. Here's a website that could help you locate someone if that is something that interests you: http://www.therapytribe.com/Counselling/Canada/Gay-Lesbian-Issues . I just searched "find lgbt therapist canada." Several options resulted.

Big love.

skyDancer had a very good response. I'd just like to add that finding out your gender is much like finding out your sexuality. It's not so much about what's on the outside, but what's on the inside. You sex is what you are outwardly, whereas you gender is what you are inwardly. Also, there are terms such as cisgendered and transgendered to describe contradicting and matching gender-to-sex orientations. For example, a guy who is inwardly and outwardly a male would be cisgendered. A guy who is outwardly male, but inwardly female would be transgendered (or transsexual, depending on you definition). So, what you need to determine are 3 things.
1. You say outwardly you are male, so are you cisgendered or transgendered?
2. If you are transgendered, do you want to make the transition from male to female?
and 3. How are you going to go about doing either one of your choices?
Now, when I say "need to determine" I do not mean that you need to decide right now, in the next few months or even in the next few years. Take your time figuring out who you are, and either way you go, there will always be a community there to support you, I guarantee it. Keep in mind that gender, as well as sexuality, is not just a set thing. In some cultures, there are five, even seven. My personal belief is that it's a spectrum. Maybe you are in the middle of the spectrum or more to the right or left. I encourage you to check this video out about a culture with more than two genders:
http://www.15andcounting.org/blog/2009/09/02/five-genders/
Although you posted this a while ago, I hope I am still helpful in some way. Good luck!!!!

I know what you mean. Some people are for example girls but they don't feel like they are they feel more masculine. This is because you kind of want to be a girl which is fine, your not the only case. Some people even change their gender to feel more comfortable. You will soon find out who you are.

Dear friend
YOU ARE A MAN. God made you that way. To like women.
Ask God to free you of your conflicting emotions and He will.
Sometimes a parents preference before birth can influence feelings later.
I'm sure that happened to me.
Please believe what I say. I know what I'm talking about!
Cheers.