Maybe he just likes nude photos and underwear. You can't tell me that your husband never saw her naked growing up and that you don't have any nude photos of her kicking around in some photo albums or something. Or did you destroy them all as soon as she got older?
Nudity doesn't mean there's anything sexual going on... most people like being naked and like seeing other people naked, especially people they love. And there are thousand and one explanations why someone would have someone's underwear, that don't involve anyone wanting to hurt someone else.
Does he treat her badly in other ways or make her feel uncomfortable and worthless as a human?
Being afraid of nudity and of touch is something that we teach children by being ashamed of our own bodies. Probably your husband is frustrated that as your kid grew up, they are no longer able to be affectionate to each other, and maybe he even thinks of it as sexual tension, but it's not, it's just craving affection, warmth, and touch, like every other human and mammal. People are being driven crazy by being so isolated from each other and they often turn to sexual feelings, as a last resort.
I know some people don't like this answer... but it's true. Don't just call people perverts and say they need help, if you don't know anything about them or their situation. I bet you millions of people feel sexual feelings towards people they love all the time and still never do anything to hurt them, and on the other hand, lots of parents don't have any sexual interest in their children and still mess them up in a million other ways, such as making them hate themselves, their bodies, and think that no one loves them or cares abut them, especially not their parents.
Sexual attraction is not well understood anyone in our society, even professionals, and yet everyone feels like they're an expert. What's up with that?
Answered Jan 01, 2011
Edited Jan 01, 2011
