Why I have the urge to masturbate?

Hi I'm 17 year old girl and I need some advice
I started to masturbate since I was 8 it felt so good.
at age of 15 I started to watch porn on net and it gets me
so exited and very wet. After I finish with watching I'll lay on my bed
and start to masturbate about 5 or 6 minutes.
But I don't want to do that anymore because I feel guilt
please I need an good answer
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Asked Aug 30, 2010
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markkk Dec 18, 2010
Why do men always get blamed for watching porn and masturbating? I just typed in masturbate on ehelp and most of the questiobs are from females!
well, why do you feel guilty? is it because it conflicts with your beliefs? or is it because you have been told it is something bad?

If it is because of your beliefs, it is better to follow your faith than to live with a guilty feeling (it is possible to stop... but only if you can look at the big picture, and only if stopping is something you really want)

If it is because you have heard it is wrong to do it, I know you have probably heard it from people who oppose it because of their beliefs... if that is the case... what other people think about something doesn't have to be what you believe about it...

I try to look at things this way, perhaps it will help you too...
If I feel guilty about something, I try to find the root of why I feel guilty...
when you find the root, you usually can know what to do from there...

Listen to your heart... at the end of the day it is your choice, your body, your feelings, but life is all about the choices you make... everything comes down to a choice...

about the pornography, usually young girls will watch it because they are looking for something they long for, young girls long to be in love and to be loved by someone, so sex is often misunderstood for love...

I used to be addicted to pornography myself when I was your age,
But it is empty... it doesn't make you feel good at the end of the day (well physically maybe) but not the heart...

I am not telling you what to do, the choice is yours,
I am also not telling you that masturbation is right or wrong,
there is no answer to that (only that sex is meant for two people to enjoy together, and masturbation feels a little lonely doesn't it?)
the only thing I must say is that watching porn is addicting and addictions are not good emotionally and physically... talk to someone you can trust maybe to help you, get a really good hobby, an activity, set a goal perhaps, anything to take your mind off of it is really helpful if you want to stop, leave a note on the tv or computer (could be your own secret language) telling you not to watch it...

I hope it all works out for you :)
and remember live, learn, laugh, love... you are young and have your whole life ahead of you, you are strong, you can do anything you put your mind to! :)
Answered Oct 11, 2010
Masturbation is normal behavior for young people. You shouldn't feel guilty unless it becomes an obsession. If you find that it's having an effect on other parts of your life, you should deal with it.

It's also important to understand the behavior should stop when/if you marry. An important part of what makes a marrage work is mutually satisfying each other's sexual needs and either partner working on their own will seriously detract from the bond.
Answered Aug 30, 2010
Nothing is wrong with it, just make sure it is not affecting your normal life. Its a habit/addiction but it's a good is'nt it?

Perhaps speak to someone about it? (etc, Doctor, Family & Friends)

It's Normal to feel to Masturbate as most teenagers do, Boys/Girls.
Answered Oct 04, 2010
Edited Oct 18, 2010
Everyone with hands masterbates. And to Rob that said the behavior should stop after you get married is crazy. It's very satisfying to masterbate as a couple in the privacy of your own bedroom. Everyone is intitled to their own ways of getting pleasure with or without a mate. If it should interfear with having sex with your partner, then you might have a problem. And even sometimes its important to show your mate how you like to be touched.
Answered Oct 10, 2010
Wonder what "working on their own"means?
Rob Oct 11, 2010
you said that working on their own will detract there bond
It is the erroneous philosophies of religion seeking to impose an irrational fantasy upon reality that induces your guilt. Religion would have you feel guilty for breathing if it could figure out a way. Every dollar in the pot they pass around at church completely depends upon guilt induction. It is a mind virus and spreads like no other contagion, the cure?

Reason, Science, Knowledge, education, critical thinking skills over primitive bronze age mental infections.
Answered Oct 12, 2010
JimGeorge said it all.

in addition, if ur not phisically hurting urself or thinking about it fot prolonged periods of time. do it. one of my closest friends does it all the time and she says it's a good pick me up for teen anxiety.
Answered Oct 14, 2010
It fine unless it affects the rest of your life, ie, having unprotected sex. Enjoy.
Answered Dec 24, 2010
Same I started masturbating at 7 years old when I was watching a film on mermades lol, I dont know why I just did it and I liked doing it but I thought It was a health problems lol and I started watching porn at 10 years old, I am 12 nearly 13 now and its normal ok I get excited too and its embarrassing to tell my mum so its kinda a secret for me. Dont worry it's not a sin but it's embarrassing and I wanted to stop but once you've started you can't stop because the envy is still here and I still secretly watch porn.
Answered Jan 14, 2011
it's hard too, but just go cold turkey
Answered Feb 03, 2011
Masturbation is normal and healthy. Just do it in the privacy of your home/room and don't 'share' your most mind-blowing orgasm with your friends, or worse, someone you just met and you'll be fine. If you don't learn what it takes to please your body, how are you ever going to learn how to please a future partner, or even have a fulfilling sex life when you do have a partner. Given what people will do, and have done, in an attempt to relieve sexual tension and frustration, it is actually less healthy to NOT masturbate and be ruled by raging hormones and an obsession with sex.

@ Melihime: you can't have it both ways. You say "I am not telling you what to do, the choice is yours, I am also not telling you that masturbation is right or wrong,", then you say "only that sex is meant for two people to enjoy together, and masturbation feels a little lonely doesn't it?" and "I must say is that watching porn is addicting".

You are telling this person to make up their own mind and you are above influencing them with your beliefs, and then you turn right around and influence them with your beliefs, as well as making an unsubstantiated blanket statement that "watching porn is addictive."

It is 'ethics of convenience' and intellectually hypocrisy like yours that makes it so difficult for kids to grow up as kids, learning about life by trying things and making harmless mistakes.

It is as ridiculous to say that "porn is addicting" as it is to say that opiate pain medicine is addictive so don't take any pain medicine when you have surgery. While some people MAY get obsessed with watching people 'make the beast with two backs' it is NOT addictive. Try getting strung out on heroin and then getting cleaned up before you so casually throw around the term 'addicitive'.

It's just another excuse in our already excuse-laden society.
Answered Feb 08, 2011
masturbating is a very normal and healthy habit and most people do it even it they dont tell you most of you friends and family members would do it so just go to a private area and do it I used to either go to my bedroom or go to the bathroom either way its up to you no one else lol
Answered Mar 30, 2011
I did too, it is COMPLETELY normal!
Answered Aug 02, 2011
it is very natural to masturbate,even between couples when partners masturbate each other if feels great.dont get hooked up into some crazy beliefs and fears,do whatever you wanna do.just make sure u know the consequences and how to handle them.
Answered Oct 23, 2011
very good question, when you feel the urge ask yourself will I have all the energy that I have at this very moment in a few moments if I give in? It takes lots of control, try to search other things online to kill time. I don't believe it is right to walk away from the computer because the urge still lingers and one must adopt a way to be alone online with the urge and learn to understand how to control oneself even in the face of temptation being click away.
Answered Apr 04, 2012
urge thats new for me do u mean masterbate urself with a urge? it isnt white but yellow liquids is about the same pluss it almost the same feeling it gets sticky and it taste like shit
Answered Dec 22, 2012
Don't feel guilt. If it makes you feel good, then it's fine to do. If you have the urge and you're alone, just go wild. It's a natural thing to do and a lot of people do it, and they probably feel guilty themselves. But little do they know, they're surrounded by people who do it too!
Answered Oct 23, 2013

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