WHAT do I do?!?!?! I cant even think of a name for this question im so sad about it! :( HELP ME!

a guy goes out with me for six days.. best 6 days of my life and I fall in love with him. we have sooo SOOO much fun those 6 days.... and dumps me at army cadet camp cause of anger problems and cause he dosent want to hurt me. the next day we both go home from camp. so I dont get to tell him that I dont care if he has anger problems. cause he wouldnt talk to me. even when his best friend-who is like a bro to him- tells him he is being an idiot to dump me.

he goes out with a rebound girl and asks me to be his friend. I dont talk to him much cause it hurts to talk to him and know what im missing.. then one day he messages me and he then tells me he is in love with me. and I tell him how in love with him I am.
we have this whole game called random where you ask any question and the other person has to answer. so he is asking stuff like :

how long have you loved me,
do you like me kissing you,
what do I mean to you.
do you think I am good enough for you?
i ask him the same questions and he answers stuff like (using the order of questions above) ..
since I first talked to you
its the best thing in the world
everything
its me who isnt good enough for you.

his friend says we should go out and that he should (in his friends own words) DUMP THE OTHER GIRLS ASS. but he isnt deciding and keeps telling me to wait and see. he lives in a different town than me and so unless I get him to meet somewhere, I dont get to see him untill september.
whatever I say to him the only thing he replies with is either: 'k, kk, lol, yh, haha, or uh huh'
he never says anything I can make a conversation out of. so I just watch him on webcam.. missing him alot. but I cant think of what to say to him.

i tried confronting him and I think I said some things I shouldnt have (for which I have apologized). and he forgave me straight away.
but thie anxiousness is KILLING me.. not knowing whether he will pick me or not.. I dream about him every night and I really really cant see life without him.
i want him to choose me
what do I do?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!!!!!!!
Anonymous User
Anonymous User
Asked Aug 12, 2010
Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, this is tough. It seems like you're new to this whole love game. The interesting thing about aging is that your hindsight is always 20/20. When you look back at this time in your life, you'll realize that this guy isn't right for you because he can't even decide if he has feelings for you. There are so many other people on this planet and the one (out of many other possible options) that is positive you're right for him is probably the right one for you. If you have the patience to wait for a boy who is a bit more mature, you won't regret it. In the long term, you're going to meet somebody else that will make you forget about whoever this boy is, because once you get older you'll realize how much more enjoyable love can be once you have a few more privileges. All I know is that girls my age would find the fact that he is even considering another girl a huge turn-off and forget about it.
rebishaz
Answered Aug 21, 2010
thank you very much... but the thing is now everytime I try tell him that I am only making things worse for him, he starts panicking and telling me I am being stupid for even thinking this stuff.
and now ive gotten a whole bunch o S*** added to this 'little' story :(
ilikecereal
Answered Aug 21, 2010
p.s this was the original question asker.. jfyi
Well, I think that love is genuinely hard to come by. I've liked the same girl for 8 years of my life, and just last Christmas did I finally realize that I love her. You know, adults always say that they fall in love and they know it right away..but what they don't always say is that they've probably gone through 20+ relationships that they thought the same thing about and then changed there minds. He may be some sort of psychopath or whatnot, and you may be an amazing person, but also--and I know this by watching--guys will say stuff that the girl of their affection (or their target) wants to hear.
It's reassuring if you don't think about it..but also, he's maybe trying to hurt you. I know what the feeling is like..trust me, I really do.
ialwaysquestion
Answered Aug 22, 2010
thank you, for your advice, this is such a confuzzling situation that I dont know what to do/... what I can do that would help influence his decicion
This is not an uncommon situation. Although extrodinarily painful. Things will get better. 1- There is a high probability that your friend has PSTD or a bi-polar disorder. It is being triggered by the stressful situation. At any rate 2-you need to invision your friend in the best possible light - maybe when you remember really connecting with him. As a friend - be prepared to talk to him about going to a counselor and mabe go as well. I mention counseling because I have had great success with it. It is possbile that he needs your help. Sadly, he has moved away from you for now. I would just be you and he'll come back. Young men are new to this game so they are often just giving you a nudge to see what your reaction is. Stay cool. Being you is the cool thing. And the most interesting thing to the opposite sex.
thadcs
Answered Aug 22, 2010
im pretty sure he dosent have a bipolar or anything. everyone at their school gets checked out for anything like that.
thank you very much for your help. if anyone has any more advice, im taking all I can get from as many people as possible atm
I think he likes it because he's got you just where he wants you, all the time you are running after him ,he will let you. Stop running after him, and see how the tables turn then>
maz
Answered Aug 30, 2010
how do I do that.... sorry imso clueless by the way... this has never happened to me bofere

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