How do I get a guy who I love and who loves me to choose me over another girl? HELP?!?!?!?!?!?!?

a guy goes out with me and dumps me at army cadet camp cause of anger problems and cause he dosent want to hurt me. the next day we both go home from camp. so I dont get to tell him that I dont care if he has anger problems.

he goes out with a rebound girl and asks me to be friends. he then tells me he is in love with me. and I tell him I am in love with him. we have this whole game called random where you ask any question and the other person has to answer. so he is asking stuff like :

how long have you loved me,
do you like me kissing you,
what do I mean to you.
i ask him the same questions and he answers stuff like (using the order of questions above) ..
since I first talked to you
its the best thing in the world
everything

all his friends say we should go out and that he should (in their own words) DUMP THE OTHER GIRLS ASS. but he isnt deciding and keeps telling me to wait and see. he lives in a different town than me and so unless I get him to meet somewhere, I dont get to see him untill september.

i tried confronting him and I think I said some things I shouldnt have (for which I have apologized). but now he is in a mood with me.
but thie anxiousness is KILLING me.. I dream about him every night and I really really cant see life without him.
i want him to choose me but I think I have messed stuff up.
what do I do to make him choose me!!!!?????

The first thing you have to understand is that love is very powerful. So powerful in fact, that it really doesn't matter what you did to him, if he really loves you -- he will love you no matter what.

I mean think about it...he has not just done one thing, but many things that should make you not like him. He broke up with you and is even dating another girl, but you still would do anything to get him, right. That is because you love him.

The hard truth is that his actions show that he probably doesn't love you back right now. You are obviously caring, devoted, and passionate...find someone who feels that way about you and you'll really have something. Plus, as you pay less attention to him, if he really likes you, it will drive him right back to you.

Good luck!

In addition to agreeing with everything fodahe has said, I would add the suggestion that you try to calm your emotions down and seriously think about this. What amazes me is that you don't seem angry at a guy that will tell you what you want to hear then do the opposite.

Regardless of the love factor, everybody should have standards for themselves for what they will tolerate in a relationship. Otherwise you become a doormat for anybody that wants to use you. A relationship that works involves mutual caring, good communications and looking out for each other among many other things. None of that exists between you and this guy.

You are the captian of your life. Learn to sail your own ship whether you have a first mate or not. You can go anywhere in life you want that way. When you are willing to play the doormat for somebody else, your ship wanders around in circles and goes nowhere. Get a handle on your emotions and think about why this has happened.