I believe it really gets back to how do we want to teach, and model, healthy sexuality to our kids. We live in a culture where almost anything goes... but do you want your son to go there? With a little more research you will find that fetishes are not harmless, because they build up fantasies that can never be satisfied in the context of a normal sexual relationship; the result is sexual, and with that, relational dysfunction. My wife just told me about a fellow employee at work whose marriage ended as a result of the husband's shoe fettish. Fettishes are much like a pornogrphy addiction... they preoccupy and corrupt the beautiful, natural sexual gift we have been given. Your son may be by himself in this now... but as he grows up, if it is still with him, it will affect his ability to have a normal, healthy sexual relationship... like with a spouse. Paul in Seattle
First of all, I like the way you handled the akward scene starring your son. I wish all parents handled such situations the same way. Secondly, granted I'm not a father, I am a man in his early 30s who has had a foot fetish all his life. My advice is, in a casual conversation with your son about sex or sexuality, probe (don't push) him a little to see if he'll admit to his fetish. Assure him that human sexuality is a complex creature that comes with many kinks and fetishes. Society teaches young people to accept one type of sexuality, which is why kids who are into things outside the norm feel alone and ashamed. It is up to great parents like you to help him know: 1) he is not alone, that there are plenty other foot fetishists in the world, and 2) if he takes it slow, he just might find a girl who will welcome his fetish. But don't encourage him to sniff YOUR shoes. Not a good idea.
Upon stumbling on this question and reading all the posts on this subject and trying to put myself in the boy's shoes (pun intended), I believe the best thing you could do is give him a book titled "THE SEX LIFE OF THE FOOT AND SHOE" by William A. Rossi. ISBN # 0-89464-573-0 (HARD COVER) or ISBN # 0-89464-756-3 (PAPERBACK). And hope for the best!