My girl freind isnt over my ex that I told her is long gone she always says I love the ex not her

just reassure her that it's her you love and not your ex, a woman wants to be sure because their heart are so flexible, she's only trying not to get hurt.

I am a woman and are hearts are not flexible, The only sure thing I can think of is that you must be giving her some kind of reason to think that. Ask yourself what am I doing with my ex?
We all know that when we break up with ex's we can not be friends with them if we are with an ex there is more than what we say that's going on, stop seeing your ex anonymous and you girl friend will stop question you.

Try to explain to her that you love her with all your heart, and mabey even do something romantic that will convince her that you love her with all your heart, like light candles all around the house turn off the lights and sing to her a love song that is really romantic, anyway I Hope this helps. :)