I am tired of this sociopath, How can I get my revenge?

I Know this is long, please, please give me your honest input! You are really helping me here.

Because of his constant cheating our 14 plus years relationship ended however, not before we produced a very beautiful, intelligent six year old little girl! Unbeknownst to be me and while I was putting my self through school and taking steps to care for my family, he was busy cheating with a host of women who has produced three other children. He happened to marry the last one who gave him his only one. Yet, this man was still coming to me telling that he loved me and hoping that I, the woman that was not good enough to be his wife am good enough to be his booty call. Not wanting to go on that ride again, I asked to be left alone, notified his wife of his intentions, started dating and I severed all ties with him. He responded by sully my name and spreading a host of malicious gossips and lies about me to all that would listen, family, friends, foes etc. I got on with my life, and ignored him. I bought a house and began a new career; this however, did not sit well with him. He has damaged my reputation, turned my friends and family against me (lost a few of those and alienated from the rest). I only communicate with him via emails if it pertains to our child. He then retaliated by denying that our child is his and by telling me these” You could take your child to the moon for all I care” “You could kill me with support but no one is going to make me spend time with a child I don’t want to”. He made good on that by not seen the child for six months. That is fine by me, because in the past, he has the tendency of using my wanting him to have a relationship with the child to get to me or back into my life!

I contacted a lawyer who told me to keep record of all my conversation with him ( hence the emails) and to tell him if I plan to take the child out of state or out of the country, so I notified him of an impending trip abroad over a month ago. Out of the blue, yesterday, accompanied by another person who pretended to be his counsel showed up at my kid's summer camp demanding to see her. Since there wasn’t any visitation set up or a court ordered visitation (only support) he was turned away. He then sent me an email, demanding that I tell the center to allow him access to the child, I replied No! He follow that email with this” Ok, step two” which I assumed meant that he was going to take me to court.

Furthermore, this is not his first time doing this, both my daughter and the child his with current wife were going to the same school, he saw the child twice because he came upon them as they were heading to the loo. Occasionally, he would wave at him as he was leaving while he is outside on the playground. This man works for the school system where our child goes to school and is in charged of network security and data management which allows him access to our child's record (I gave him and he still has permission to view her records), yet he never bothered to go to the school in the entire six months to see her. Why now all of a sudden, he is demanding to see her and pretending to care about my taking the child out of state? Mind you it is the same man who told me that I could take my kid to the moon for all he cares! I am supposed to allow him access to her now just to boost his ego? How do I make sure that he is not just trying to hurt me by using the child? I seriously feel like all of this is just to spike me! Is this really about our child or do you also detect and obsession to control and destroy me? This man told me that he married someone he loves, trust and who loves all his children, why then is he not focusing on that wife instead making me his obsession?

I am happy and over it, I have the restraining order and in the process of having the child support modified. I am doing all that I can to ignore this lunatic, I stopped answering my home phone, changed my cell number, got the police involved, what else can I do? Please help!

Honey, you need to get out of that country and move elsewhere. He really isn't content in his own life and therefore chooses to pass the pain on to you. You've complied with the law. Now get out and start over elsewhere.

I dissagree with elmo. Thats kinda farce. You live in the u.s right? (dont answer that) the best you can go is move to a new town or got somewere in that state/contry/whatever go somewhere he would not expect you to go. thats what I say.