How can I find out if my partner gave me herpes or if I gave it to him?

my parner and I both had herpes outbreaks at the same time but I dont know if he gave it to me or I gave it to him?

It is difficult to try and pinpoint the exact day of when you contracted it. Your partner doesn't have to have any noticeable signs to pass it along to you. There is no cure for it, but protected sex does help prevent passing it along, though even then it is possible to pass it. They do have anti-virals that can reduce the time you experience outbreaks from it. The CDC has more information about it at their site.

yvonne30 is is way difficult to tell how long you have had it as, you can have it and have no symptoms. Same goes for him.