What can I do to end this abusive and manipulating relationship?

Hi, I am a 23 year old male who is currently dating a 19 year old female. I've come to a breaking point with our relationship, as she tries to control my life completely. She does this by threatening suicide and self harm to get what she wants, and I end up giving in because it scares me. But I know it is very unhealthy and unfair to me, and I need to end it. But I fear when I go to end it she will threaten suicide again, and I don't know for sure if she would actually carry it out. But I don't want to risk it. I think she needs help but I don't know how to get it for her as I know if I talked about it with her she would get very angry. I need to end this relationship but I don't want her to hurt or kill herself.

I think you sould call the police and say ' hey my girlfriend is threatning to kill herself to get what she wants' or you should go see a therapist. I hope you can make something out of it and get better.

Go to the court house and have her commited to the hospital for observation, I live in Iowa and it only takes two people to do that. It can be anyone, it does not need to be family members. If you continue to let her use threats to keep you around you will never be free.

she needs to go to a therapist, or you both need to go to court. this is an unhealthy relationship and it needs to end , hope this helps! :)

I would definitely start by calling the police, and tell them what is going on. You can always call the non-emergency number just to get advice on who to call to take further action.

best of luck.

idk if you're a believer but you should definately pray if you are . . . .