How do you tell someone you want them out of your life

I have been in a relation ship for 7 years and for the last 4 have been miserble, I feel as though this person puts every bad issue in his life on my shoulders , he has a 14 year old child that constantly disrespects me and he condones it, he wont help him self, and he constantly complains that I am not sexual enough with him to all his friends, I just want out how do I get rid of him with out haveing him come back to hurt me.

Oh wow, first of all I want to say I think you are so brave for staying in it this long. But I definitely understand that you want out!

I'm not sure what the best way to do this is, when I did it (it was a friendship not a romantic relationship) I did it by text, as by that point it was just about the only way we ever communicated. I regret this though - I stick by my decision to leave but I wish I'd ended things properly, there's a lot I never got to say.

I think face-to-face is probably the best way, if you feel strong enough to do that. But know that if you do choose to confront him face to face, it won't be easy because you'll be right there for him to disagree with you. Maybe it would be a good idea to plan what you're going to say, say that, and then leave.

I can see that you're also worried that he'll come back to hurt you but I don't know whether you mean emotionally or physically. If you mean physically I suggest you go to the police, if this is something that's likely to happen. If emotionally, my best advice is to make sure a close friend knows what's going on before you end this relationship. I isolated myself from my friends when I was in your position and then had no one to lean on. Since then I've had a little bit of contact from this person but couldn't really share how it was getting to me because no one knew what had happened in the first place. I've told someone everything since then so that if there is anything else, I'll have someone to turn to for support. I think this is a really good idea.

Sorry this is sooooo long, but I hope it helps you! Good luck, be strong!

Make a plan, Make sure you have some money put away and make sure this is really what you want. If he is abusive make sure he will be gone for awhile if you plan to move out. If he is abusive you owe him nothing, if you feel the need to explain yourself to him them write him a detailed letter explaining the way he has made you feel. Honey life is to short to deal with an idiot, I lost my nephew who was 18 years old. I love and miss him so much. Leave and find true happiness.

This is an extremely interesting site; never knew it was here! I AGREE w/ both answers; Anonymous AND Theresa-especially if a man is abusive (I've been through several abusive relationships...as the bible says, "Deep calleth unto Deep" which in the bible; they are referring to spirituality depth; however, our God is so wise that is also is meant for people who are not sure why; however they are so how DRAWN to abusive men and visa versa!) I was the type of person that felt I was unworthy of TRUE intimacy; TRUE AGAPE-God given LOVE THAT IS FROM GOD; we cannot pick and choose-especially as women! Did you know (I learned this lesson from a modern-day Solomon; a multi-multi X's I don't know how many times over Billionaires Christian man that found himself sitting on a curb with all his worldy possessions within a tattered suitecase. When his wife of 15 years left him; he no longer cared for ANYTHING...He took his vows SERIOUSLY; however, she didn't; she took his only son in whom his love was DEEP; not like men of today-the type that are just sperm donors). Well, anyway, he found himself at his mom's house and told her that everything that meant anything to him just Walked out of his life; his child Jason and wife. My mom and I have often discussed that a Real Nice man will end up will a "B" of a woman; and the same for a good woman; she'll find a hate-filled and undeserving good woman. WHY? Opposites attract? The enemy wanting to trap the good person? I just don't know; however back to looking for a man and this modern day Solomon: he wrote a book after being single and celibate for a while. The bible says, "When a man finds a wife, he finds a 'good thing'." But, a woman that is seeking for a man-has a Jezebel spirit. God WILL and Does bring the RIGHT man to good women; when we attempt to do it ourselves-we'll choose for all the WRONG REASONS; looks, financial security; sometimes she truly feels she's in love; however, if IT ISN'T GOD; IT IS NOT GOING TO LAST! I was the type of woman as a younger woman (I'm 51 years old now) I'd just pick and choose and always got someone I ended up LEAVING! Only "1" time a man left me; but, it was due to another woman (a 'friend' always had been in love with him) that weighed 300 lbs that he knew and respected for years that lied to him and said that I did things that we're true while he was welding in Texas. So, he believed her; he felt she'd not ever lie to him. He was a full-blooded cGerman; with 5 other brothers from Germany. He saw everything in BLACK AND WHITE; he truly loved me; but she made him feel like a FOOL 4 staying w/ me. Do you know how I found out? HER BABYSITTER! She came over and said, "Oh, I saw your fiancee he is so CUTE! And then continued to tell me that Donna (that was her name) had told her that she had planned from the very beginning to split us up; it just took some time. She claimed that she could have my fiancee just like that (as she snapped her finger) which wasn't true. She thought if she could get this young girl to believe it; she could continue believing a lie herself; I actually pitied her! He TRULY loved me and this time HE CHOSE ME; not the other way around like all my other relationships and cried as he left out of house that he couldn't stand being thought of as a FOOL and it was so sad due to my true love that grew for him. It hurt me for YEARS!! I met him when we were both 26 years old.

You should just pack up your bags and say " I'm leaving!".