How do you avoid your mum and sister if you still live with them?

I don't get along with my mum and sister, I tried talking to her sensibly and rationally but tends to end up in an argument, I tried to go counselling with her, she didn't want to go even begging her, my counseller says that it's going to be harder to help me without my mum being around. She hates to see me happy because she gets angry and tries to put me down about something nearby when I am happy. When I start crying, she ignores me, when she tries to comfort me, she never considers my feelings, always hers. I'm thinking of a career change and when I was offered a good career opportunity, she says that I could find something better because that opportunity is to hard for a beginner like me as I've enver had experience before. my sister usually looks at my fashion designs and boasts that she could draw better and tries to draw herself, says she used to be good at drawing when she was young, my friend says my drawings are good, but my sister didn't want to hear what my friend was saying.

I try to ignore them but it started becoming a big argument, because when I ignore them, it really hurts even more, if I ignore them, it seems I'm not standing up for my self. If I walk away from an argument, they follow me to where I'm going and starts arguing with me, when I walk away the second time, they think I don't care about the problem, but it's not like that at all. if I don't say anything, it will seem like I REALLY don't care, that's why I have to say something about it and falls into an argument.

shall I stay overnight at a hotel, because I really need some time to be by myself. I can't call childline because I'm not a child, I can't call samaritans because they don't offer you advice they just listen to your problems

there was one time when my mum whispered to my sister while I was at a cafe saying that my outfit didn't suit me, when I approached them, my sister confronted me saying my belt doesn't suit my bag, a lot of my mum's friends say I've lost weight and says I'm pretty and says that i look nice in what I wear, my mum says she can still see my fat when I wear a particular outfit, she only said that I've lost weight and I'm pretty ONCE when I told her I don't like my nose.

move out with all the money and bloody finger and run like a mofo befor you get in jalil

if I where you I would live with an ant or a friend I have the same problem I hope everything gets better because I fell you

kill them and hide them under then blow up ur house or light it on fire etc. (u get the point) :)

Ask_Sean Says, Why not ask to stay with a friend or family member and let things settle down for a while, things may seem to look up if you just leave them alone and wait for them to come to you.

Trust Me Things Will Get Better!

i know EXACTLY what your saying. I am almost 30 and have been living with my mum on and off for many years. The off times are so much better than living with her. Sometimes we've moved back in to save money, but in the end, i'd rather be stressed about bills than go through what I go through. I'm not an angel BUT I usually only get upset or angry when things are said to me that just don't have to be said. I have an almost 2 year old, and her moving in My place, (while she finds a new place to rent) and it;s been hell. I can't make any decisions on raising my son the way I want too, unless I want to hear her mumbling and bitching in the back ground and which when Im trying to ask her to stop for my son's sake she just starts. My son is going through a seperation issue with her, as he only wants her to put him to bed, sooth him when he wakes during the night (which has only started since she moved in)
I know she loves him, and she says she dosnt want to hear him cry etc, but I know when he's throwing a tantrum, and sometimes you just have to say to your child, "no, it is bed time, and you need to sleep" and stick to what your doing with them. She plays silly games and talks alot to him when it's time for quiet and relaxing as he drifts off, and wonders why he keeps waking up crying for her. I keep saying its cuz he knows he'll get all the attention from you, when he really should be sleeping and her nasty comments are cuz he dosent get any attention from me (how can I spend time with my son when she encourages time away from me) It's a long long story, but in the end its very similar in how people treat you and i.
I am told what to do in my own house all through out the day. it was bad enough when I was at her old places or something, but in my house! I get comments and bitching from her about things I haven't done (or things I have done like tonight she was going to make dinner and went off when I started browning the chicken after id cut it up for us). Says my house isnt clean enough etc. My house is clean, I wouldnt let my son live in a dirty place.
Yes, she pays half rent while she is here, but don't I get a final say in the end as a mother and an adult.......not in her books.
I am a bit over weight , and trying to do something about it, people say I am still attractive though, yet she is always on me about the negative things. I love my mum, cuz she is my mum, but I HATE who she has become over the last 10 years. She is negative, bitchy, picks abouts people in the street to me (you know commenting about their looks or weight) . I used to be able to get a hug from her when I am upset, but now its "get over it" etc. I feel so much that I've lost my mum and I often wonder why I put up with her and her mouth/attitude. no wonder i've lost friends, or people are rude to her. it seems people can sence a vibe.

My advice is really try hard to move out. Find a housemate if you cant afford to live alone. My realationship with my mum is alot better when we've lived apart. I think its like any relationship/friendship, even though its wrong and it shouldnt happen in the first place, people keep treating others wrong because we allow to "put up" with it (as much as we can).

stay strong and find a way out............I can't wait till mine leaves!