How do i transfer pictures from my sony w950i phone to my laptop without having to email them

You will need to purchase a special data cable from Sony.

This is what you need:
http://www.mobilefun.co.uk/sony-ericsson-dcu-65-p15369.htm

If you're not in the U.K. then just find that same thing from a U.S. retailer.

i cant transfer even with the cable, its not doing anything.

Download software for se - http://gsm-problem.net/sonyericsson.html