The girl i love more than anything left me and i don't know what to do. help?

I want her back more than I've ever wanted anything before. I don't know what to do with myself. I love her so much.. she's the only comfort i had.. she doesn't even realize how much i care for her. She says go find a new gf. I can't. I don't want any other girls. I was after her for 2 years then we finally dated for a year.. and now she's gone. I haven't slept or ate in 2 days. My head is killing me and my stomach hurts but I can't do it. My chest literally aches so bad I feel sick and can't eat, and when I try to sleep I just lie awake all night.
But there's nothing i can do.. she got this attitude of 'I'll do what makes me happy' a few months ago and I was scared this would happen..
I don't really have any friends I can turn to because I live in VA and they are all back in WA. I don't have a job because I quit the last one and no one's hiring anymore.
I literally have nothing to live for anymore. Nothing at all. Stuff I used to care about I really don't. All I want to do is put a bullet in my head. But I promised her I wouldn't. She's locked me in a painful bind and I can't get out.
I've tried to be mad at her but I can't. I just love her so much but she doesn't seem to care about me. Please help me

make ur self happy while making her jelous she needs to know what she is missing or she will leave u.Move on and show her other peole do want me and then you might be happy agian

Your not alone, this happens everyday. The more you call her the worse it gets. I know that this is going to be hard to do because I have been there. Don't call her, don't call her friends, don't text etc. If she thinks you are moving on & she cares she'll come back to you. If she doesn't the pain will ease with time only if you get off your pity pot & move on. Start living again. Hurt when you want cry if you want just don't call when that urge hits.Start doing what you did before you met. Getting yourself back is more important than driving yourself crazy trying to get her back.....Then eat.

its over fosho

Im in the same boat dog , we where going on two years I lost my my job and she was holding down , but after vigorously looking for a job and searching she started changing towards me she began to push me away the person I was so close to and thought I knew and could trust was just a different person there where signs , she started using the fact that I cant find work as and excuse and started judging and being condasending , plus her slut best friend was throwing her two cents about me and dont even know me , we had a heart to heart and she starts all this criying witch is bullshit Im immune to that shit but after that talk I thought we solved the problem but half of me knew better and that it was just a temparary fix , a few days went by and I called one morning and she told me she miss but she has to stay away from me till I can prove I can get myself together I looking at her like bitch do you not watch the news is it not a ressecion , so I asked when things are good and everythings okay thats the only thing that can keep you around ? I got silence so you know what that means , I said I understand , so you love me so much and want to be with me that when things get bad you jump ship and when I get back on my feet I supposed to welcome you with open arms ? She said if you dont want to talk to me when things are better she says she understands . Now thats says alot thats sends a message saying that Im willing to throw away a good thing I just said I gotta go , and we didnt talk for like two days she text me she loved and I responded with thats good to know , later that night an old fling hit me up outa the blue and said she wanted to see me and get some drinks my first thought was perfect timing , Id thought rather then being sad and down Im gonna go have some fun so me and shorty when out to the bar way across the water from where we live and what do you know I see one of here friends no need to speak I just acted as if I didnt see her and carryied on , so after we left the bar and went to my place my ex text me and said I saw you out there , my response was I know and left it at that , so today I txt her happy vd I got no reply it is what it is my advice to you dog is to get out there and start meeting new girls just surround your self with beautiful woman trust me there are other woman out there that are way better then her take her off the pedastool she does'nt desevere it . Now dont just jump into another reletionship but just have freinds and meet people . give your self time to grieve maybe thirty mins a day to reflect but get right back to living , lifes to short dude dont call dont text show her that you are okay and can live with out her and you can live happy and content with out her when she relizes this she will stop at notihng to get you back and thats when you make her sweat and hard as hell trust me you'll be fine just like I know I will .

life is shit the best thing I can say is b her frend I and b there 4 her and if she has a brane in her head she will give u a 2 chance I live in hope

Its really like that saying uhemm " it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all." Thrive on the happy times and kno how good it will be one day when you find that really special someone. If it was love then at least you didn't spend your entire life without knowing love like some do. Hold her in a special place in your heart and move on. Nursing the heart is a hard thing and maybe you should talk to a professional to give you guidance through this major life change such as a pastor or councelor.. Hope that helps

oni_kami, your right. swearing is abusive and dirty. it does not get you the respect from the right people in this world.swearing is dirty and lowclass

This situation seriously hurts. I hope things have improved, even if only slightly. Learning to breathe into the pain, letting it reside with you for a time (I physically have to say "Budge up, make room for me to feel this" to myself before I can allow it, but whatever works). Mostly allowing the feeling to be, and knowing that however you feel is ok helps to take the edge off it.

If she's decided to go there's often nothing that can stop her. Sometimes you can win them back temporarily, but their heart is no longer with yours. So as you watch them walk, remember. Remember all the good times of movies and holding hands and kissing and laughter, and remember all the annoying little things too. But each breath is a step forward. Each sleepless night brings you closer to a dawn where it doesn't hurt as badly, and eventually the day comes when you smile again, and you feel there's a reason to get out of bed.

Don't deny the pain. It's a part of life, and it is bringing you one step closer to finding the girl who will never walk away.

There is nothing that will stop the pain. There is only the knowledge that it isn't forever.

"Whatever will be, will be transformative."

Grow a pair. There are more where she came from. The more that you act like you cannot live without her, the more she will ignore you and disrespect you. Move on. She has.

If you had a car that quit running, it is understandable that you might lament this situation for a short while. But, if you are still sitting in the middle of the street six months later, lamenting the breakdown of your car, you need professional help.

When you find another girlfriend and treat her like that, she will leave you too. Watch closely and you will see that I am right.

When people get hurt, they learn to hate... when people hurt others,
they become hated and racked with guilt. but knowing that pain allows
people to be kind. Pain allows people to grow... and how you grow is up
to you.

I know how it feels as I am going through the same right now as we speak....and I can only hope from here on that things get better for you and me. I really pray Man , I really do ...

well I hope things have improved. you got it bad. but being mad at her will get you nowhere. try go out and move on. try to remove ALL thoughts of that girl. you deserve better and you need to let her know that. you were there the entire time, and she wasnt. dont let her get to you. EAT! SLEEP! WORK-OUT!
HAVE FUN!
if you dont (^^^) then you will be depressed your entire life. and you dont want that now do you. I promise you, you will find someone better then her and you guys will get married and then have a child and all will be well.
I WILL PRAY FOR YOU DARLING! GOD BLESS!
good luck darling (:

im in same situation now.. I love a girl for 5 years from my college days... we have plan to get marriage this year end.. but this year she joined n new company and she change her character.... she partially avoided me I found it.... then I asked her finally she said want to free give 6 month gap??? my heart broken... then finally she decided to broke with me so she find to get new way i.e., she saw astrology. my veeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrryy BAD time its was partially not good so she fix in that finaly.... for past 3 month no contact from her. I know she changed her mobile number... Waiting for her with looooottss of tear in my heart... im loving her so much...

move on man

You think you got problems mate.I live right next door to my ex and she left me for another guy,so here I am seeing this dude coming around everynite and spending the nyt there,iv gotta watch it all.To make things more complicated we have a kid together.So no matter how bad you think you have it just know that there is someone out there that is doing worse than you,hope everything turns out ok for you.

just move on be strong and 1day she will be back but thn u wont need her...

atleast u got lucky and dated her,the girl I loved never dated me,she didnt evevn know that I love her. And each time I try to tell her that iam in love her, iget scared that she'll be mad at me and never talk to me again. Know she moved to Canda. And each song in my cell reminds of her ,sometimes I cry. So if any of u loves s girl u must tell her. Or u be like me
blaming ur self for not telling her that. But u must move on. U cant let ur hole life go. Because I did only for that girl. And I wouldnt last for 6 hrs without eating

m8 im in ur shoes I dont eat (mum pritty much has to feed me) I cant sleep I cry all the time I want her so much but I dont have the guts to ask her out so ur m8 we r on the same boat

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so move on budddy make her realise that she lost a true love not u & be happy.


might possible she will look after for u or uwill get a true lover in this nasty world...........

I have been there over 30 years ago, I thought I could never love again, got heavy into drugs to stop the pain. I felt like pulling barb wire threw my stomach to fell better... as if. It was the worst days of my life. Losing your first love is something that can never be forgotten. But here is what happen, I decide to kill my shelve driving my 1975 Thunderbird into a semi. I changed my mind threw fear itself. I found a great place to meet new people and fell important, living at a message parlor and dealing speed.... like that's fixes anything. True learned how to make woman extremely happen when having sex even when I come fast, I am not sharing porn here. Just that I was on a path, everyone is on a path, and should nothing go wrong in yours, all the power too you. The closes guy to perfection I knew was nailed to a cross. Okay on with the story, to this day I will never find a girl like the one I fell in love with then, until I discovered that's OK, because every loving relationship is different. I loved her to the point that I wanted to DIE!, these days I have falling in love with many people to where I would want to die if they were lost. My children. grandchildren and the lady of my life today. This does not mean that the first girl I meant was not the most important relationship in my life, she was. She forged every felling I have towards love today. I need to forgive if I am to live happy, and you tell me who on this earth cannot say that is the ultimate agenda. There is one fact that I have learned, as long as I hate or carry any contempt for anyone, I cannot life happy and LOVE like life wills us too. Let me end with this, there will always be souls, people. friends to leave our lives, and there is only on constant. Your believe in what is true, because true never changes. Love, Spirit, and the willingness to change, will guide anyone threw anything unless they get selfish and think they can do it without help. Friends, a loving god and family. Pain is a motivator, lessen to your heart and body. If your hungry feed it, if our lonely find a friend, male or female but if you are total confused its likely because you are filled will crap and need to fly, I would say you are a walking eagle.... just to full of shit to fly ... please keep it simple and remember this, I will be your friend anytime, anyone, as long as you follow these simple rules. Take care and remember you are no more or less important than anyone in this world. PROMISE.

Excuse spelling and grammar errors, I was just typing how I felt.

Thanks

Gerry

shell come back 2 you one day

i am sure if you follow what iam going to say you will get her back
because I was in the same case before
steps are:
don't call her again
don't send her any message
never listen to music which remember you her
be strong anything you do,delete feelings, use mind
try to start new life having fun eating enough using smile
conclusion:
if you show the love to any girls in the world and and you move on them after the comin back will coming be sure
i hope you be bettre. karim from agadir

I agree
Delete her phone number
Do not call, do not text.
If you do she will just have a laugh at you with her new man.
Remove things that remind you of her.
Stop thinking about her.
Take care of yourself, go to the gym, exercise.
Talk to friends.
I was in a horrible emotional state two months ago when she left.
I am much better now, no pain, no lump in throat, stomach any more.
It took two months. She is gone, there is nothing you can do. Move on.
If you do not not get better seek professional help. Happyness will retrun to your life. Time will heal your emotional wound.