Our 13 year old granddaughter and her 3 younger brothers were give to us 6 years ago. We have legal custody of the 4 of them. She constantly argues with everyone in our family. She tries to boss her younger brothers around, they also suffer from FAS, and acts like she is the mother in the family. She lashes out verbally at my wife and myself. We have been in numerous kinds of counseling and taken many courses on helping children with these types of problems. Her medications are a cocktail of neurological and psychological drugs, Concerta, Strattera, Resperidon. Some of the problem is the fact that her pediatrician is in the process of trying to reduce her intake of these drugs to convert her over to a single drug (Clonidine). Tonight it all started at bed time because her brother asked for his book (gift at Christmas) back. She insisted that the book was for the whole family, that is when I intervened. She started yelling and screaming at me and I yelled and screamed at her, two wrongs don't make a right, I know. She got me so worked up that I wanted to hit her. Then she changed the subject and started on about how she will do what she wants when she wants. I told her "not in my house". Her bedroom is always a disaster about to happen, doesn't make me too happy. With all the yelling and screaming we woke the boys up and my wife came up and started to yell at me, saying that i'm nothing but a bully and the her reaction was normal for a 13 year old. My question is was I wrong and if I am where can I get help for my problem.
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