My mom started being mean with me

Hi, I've recently turned 18 and since that moment, I feel that my mom started being mean with me. I don't know if it is because I have a girlfriend ( jealousy or something) or if it is because she doesn't receive any money for me from the government, but this is annoying me. She keeps on saying mean things like : You should get a job and learn the real value of money, or do like you friend get a job, you never help me at home, I'm not your slave ... ) . And this usually happens when I come back from my girlfriend's house or she goes back to hers.
The thing is that, I can work now because I'm still in college and I can only work during summer time. I don't know what's the problem. Maybe she is in her menopause.
Is it really my fault?
PeterJ
Asked Dec 21, 2009
Well, i'm 12 and my mom ALWAYS fights with me. Ask your mom to have a talk with you. Tell her that you have a girlfriend and that you are an offical adult. Threaten to leave her to rot. If she yaps back at you saying something like "you cant leave, you dont have money to rent a place" then say you'll go to live with your girlfriend. if she says fine, head straight up to your room and pack your bags. then, she's out of your life. if something bad happens to her, be gentil but dont feel bad, she deserved this! my mom is mean too and threatens to cancel my piano lessons and sell my piano and iPod. My mom sucks and I just fighted with her. I'll just suck it in until I can find a place to work and sleep at. Good luck Peter J :)
Fights Oct 04, 2010
honestly i dont know your mom personally, so i cant give you a straight answer because of this. but if i where in this situation i would probobly just stay out of her way.
KevinG
Answered Dec 22, 2009
I am a singe mom on disability with an 18 year old son. My son is in school as well but, guess what? I NEVER have to say this to my son because he is looking for work as hard as he can because he, as well as anyone else CAN work while going to school ( he works in the summer time as well) and when he is home he helps around the house because he lives here to and I am his mother and not a slave. I am sorry but your mother is NOT being mean to you she is TRYING to make you into a man who takes responsibility for himself so that you can have a good future. Ever hear of welfare? That is where you will end up if you think you can not work or help out at home.
marla6102
Answered Feb 02, 2010
Agreed. You might not like it, but you live under her roof. I went to uni with students who were studying full-time as well as holding down a 40-50 hour a week job.
kizl Apr 01, 2010
def. fosho
chloe
Answered Feb 03, 2010
I understand you, I also wouldnt like it. Good bye.
asl
Answered Mar 12, 2010
Dear PeterJ,

this is not a big issue, this happens at this age.

but need to understand there is a thing called communication & understanding and if it lacks in any relationship its doesn't work be it with your mom or your GF.

SO sit down with your mom talk to her as a friend, try to understand her point of view and explain her yours but in a very polite manner.

Tip: dont get upset / angry or aggressive when she starts of with her list of complaints instead understand her first, realize the facts (wrong /right on your part as well her) take some time to respond like get a cup of coffee while talking these things out.. it would help you get a break to understand and respond effectively.


Regards
MB
MeharBhatat
Answered Jun 03, 2010

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