Please help Me! I am in need of Help please, advice?

I am trying hard to deal with my wife and it is coming to a point that nothing I do or say is working. I married a women that is 20 years older than me she has four children and no help from the father. She and I have been arguing in front of the children and I am not one to argue in front of them for there own good. She is very controlling and will not take any blame for her own mistakes and about every other day tells me that I am a lair, a hypocrite, selfish, and that I am suppose to love her as christ loved the church. This verbal abuse has made me not want to be around her for my own mental health. I am afraid I will end up in jail, and the children are starting to treat me like there mother. I have been taken from my support group my family because of her disliking of them and my family disliking her. I have lost my job, my license, and about to lose my mind, I love her and the children but the weight is sometimes to much. She does not consider my feelings and she says she does not care weather I stay or go. But this morning I would not come out of the room so I locked myself in the room and when she got back after taking the kids to school she beat the door down with a crowbar. Then she came in and started pulling my hair and hitting me on the *** and I tried to get out of the room and she stepped in the way. The only way I could get out was to jump out the window. What can I do, What would you do?

I would leave PERIOD! there should be no question. How can u possibly love some one who treatss u that way? Start fresh get a new job and go from there. You don't need someone like that. You should be with someone who loves you and treats yiyou with respect. You don;t have any of that.Right? Then leave.

This woman is mental. Run, run as fast as you can and save you life.

wow man your in deep shit just get out while you can it will only get worse

Hi Mjmay85,

You is really having a controlling problem with your wife. See, when a woman see that she can handle a man any kind of way, she will continue to doing it. Friend, you have to put your foot down, I know it will be hard but you have to do something. If you feel that you will go to jail because you might hurt her, try this, call the law on her, believe me nobody don't want to go to jail. She said that you have to love her like Christ loves his church, but she doesn't understand what that means,. Christ loves His church, but the church have to also love Him and respect Him and live by our Father's (God) laws. She don't have no respect for you at all. She even having her kids treating you the same way. Stay strong friend and pray daily for her. God sees what you is going through, and He also sees what she is doing to you. God Bless You

call domestic abuse hotline ASAP....

Hey friend,
I lived 29 years with a husband that abused me belittled me, cheated on me and ruined my self esteem! You my friend are the only one who can change the situation. Don't let this continue! My ex was 16 years older and it will only get worse. Call a counselor, ask your family if you can move in with them and get out of this mess! It will only get worse. I know I have been there and done that and I now am happy after 29 years of H!!!!!!!!! He resides with a drunk!!!!!!!!

It sounds like she has some real problems. Maybe it would be best for you to tell her that you are no longer going to put up with this disfunctional relationship. Tell her that it would be best if you seperate because its obviouse that know one is happy. Remove yourself from the situation, maybe some counseling would do you both some good. You can't change anyone, you can only change yourself. Life is to short, it's time to move on

I think you should leave ASAP because you shouldn't let her treat you like that. You have to put your foot down on somethings and lay down some laws because if you don't you might go to jail and rot. Like someone who doesn't know what to do. I hope I helped you.

Hey mjmay85,

Well my suggestion is simple and clear.

As you said u do want to stay in with her - in that case my dear you need to involve law in this situation also side by get in touch with a good with a marriage counselor with more then 5 yrs of exp. for giving this relationship a trial.

Also find a job that is of your own interest ( this would help lighten up things at your end) as a person living at home in such a situation gets him/her more upset , demotivated and brings to a break down point, and to be honest which is not helping either one of you.

And in case if this does not work you should move out!

love and relationship are important but they work better with mutual interest and understand, else it's never going work and end up in a very bad shape.


Regards
MB

run, run, run.

She's an abusive wife, leave ASAP but I would look into keeping the children. If she did that she could do anything around those poor kids. You need to claim custody or else they could end up hurt.

Run and call a domestic abuse hotline as soon as you can!

You are with an abusive woman,one of the sad parts here is how she is using God"As Christ loved the church"to manipulate you into doing/being/behaving the way she wants you to.Honestly?She sounds insane.My advice to you is"Get out"and do not go back to her.It's really bad when you have to jump out the window to get away from her....wow!Also bad that she has a crow bar,good heavens!She sounds like Cathy Bates from"Misery".Listen please,your worth more than this...you have lost so much over this woman,go before you lose your sanity,or as Cathy Bates did to poor Paul Sheldon...the use of your legs.

Sounds like some serious shit.

i have never seen a women act like that :O well if I was a man I wouldn't leave I would talk to her privately and ask what is wrong she'll go even more mental if you left her and the kids. your choice :)