Why do I hate women?

for as long as i could remember i f**king hate women yet i am extremley attracted to them wtf??? i never had a good relationship with my mother or sister could this have anything to do with it? how do i change this is killing my sex life. girls pick up on this hostility instantly!

I'm sure some of your problems are the female's fault but have you ever considered how much of it is yours? Good mental health can be wrapped onto one word: Accept.

If you accept yourself as you are and those around you (including females) as they are, life works just fine. It's unreasonable expectations that create the problems. It's a simple fact that females are different than males in a lot more ways than how their thongs are made. ACCEPT that fact without any expectations and life is good.

Well I have the same problem, I have had bad relationships with all women in my life. My birth mother left me when I was an infant, but that was Her fault. Women are meaner than men sometimes. I try to hit on women and they all laughf at me. Women are hard to figure out. Im working on my problem to Good Luck!!!!!!!!!

i think that maybe you havent found the right one yet n instead of you goin after a good one u find a bad one......... or maybe u already got it set in ur head that woman r bad because of what your mother n sister did
all woman r not bad u just gotta find a nice sweet woman for u cause god made a woman for every man
i'm not that old and I knw that everyone keep sayn that we r the problems in the relationship. I also knw that men bring the problems to sometimes we women/girls get feed up with the wrong a man is doing and step out the relationship w.....

This is just sad. What are you people thinking. People need each other and you should remember your mothers or your sisters. And if they didn't help raise you or raise you well then stop complaining because family life differs for all people and you should stop using childhood excuses. Just stop, it really is horrible to hate the people, person, women who gave birth to you. If you have no respect for that gift then commit suicide and forget having children, a son or daughter of your own. I hope you can just realize that both genders depend on each othe but for different things and with that type of relationship should come respect. Im still young and it makes me feel terrible that one day my kids might read things like this. People an family matter, the relationships with your friends matter, and society matters as well as contributing to it and protecting it. I can't respecte men who don't respect me, but I can't say anything because I'm a women? I think that good people deserve respect and you should be able to differentiate between faile relationships with two different people. Problems happen, you just can't understand the other persons perspective and once you are at peace with the fact that you both did wrong things and made bad choices, problems can be solved by using answers that dot just put blame on the opposite sex.

You need to lighten up. Let the attraction do it's thing.

The first answer to your question (which I applaud you for asking, as it takes courage to admit this and want to change it, good for you!) is absolutely laughable, "ligthening up and letting attraction do it's own thing" is another way of saying "allow yourself to remain ignorant to what's really going on". I don't know why you hate women, but I would HIGHLY recommend seeing a psychologist to discuss how you may have developed this hatred towards women from a young age. I assure you it has to do with how your mother regards herself, how she treated you, and if you have a father, that would be KEY. Also, your social environment may have something to do with it. Don't stop searching, you will find the answer...and when you find it, your feelings against women may change.

I am a women, and have personally never understood why we are so hated by men...throughout history, we have let men have their way with us, been their servants, raised their children, wore horrifically uncomfortable high heels and make up to please them, and then died without ever having really fought for our right to our own life, until women's movements began, which REALLY pissed men off.

I feel many women today are caught between trying to exercise their being a PERSON rather than being a "women", and being a sex object for men (since all us girls know that's how men value us...it's hard to value yourself as anything else when your society reinforces to you all the time that all you are IS a sex object. It's like expecting someone who has been beaten down their whole lives, to all of a sudden have confidence and power. It's not that easy. Whoever beat them down has convinced them they're worthless. And then, we are hated for it.

I don't hate men...I love men....but I am a lucky girl who has been surrounded by very respectful men and women my whole life...this is not the case with MOST of my female friends. I sort of hate society because of that.

Best of luck figuring yourself out...trust me, there is a reason to the way you are. Same as there is a reason to the way many women are. And it's not simple. You're way more complex than you know. And you're probably a fantastic person, in spite of this, just don't give up on yourself.

Do you hate a rattlesnake because it is what is? I mean, it does what it is supposed to do. How about a crocodile? Boa Constrictor? Puma? "Cougar"?

On any given day, it may allow you to hold it, or even caress it.

The next, day..you are eaten alive.

They are what they are, and they cannot overcome what they are. And they never will.

Men, after the age of 18, who do not understand this are fools indeed. Because you CAN overcome. That is why a woman hates you..they know you have that power, they do not, and that is why they can disrespect you so intensely..you choose not to use it, and let something inferior.."her"..dictate your future.

Well, looks like there's only one response from someone who knows what they're talking about. I was sort of excited when I saw that someone was going to talk about feminism in this thread but it quickly became clear that this person knows absolutely nothing about feminism. She has invented an entire fictitious human history based on her few friends who were mistreated by men. If you are interested in feminism, take a course, don't read a 13 year old girl's version of history in a forum.

Go to a psychologist because life is wasting as you put it off.

I am an open minded guy and I have a good relationship with my mother. Unfortunately all of my downfalls are because of women.
I live in turmoil and they go on there merry way. Sometimes sex isnt even involved, even from a business point of view. So im sorry but women are not equal in my eyes, and never will be. Not that I look down at them, just stay the fuck away from me.

Hi thanks for your reply.
I fully understand. How ever...
I am not going to be divorced with X amount of kids. Im not even going to RISK it. I have friends in this situation, and there entire worlds have been crushed. The women go happily on there way. Take the kids take the house take the money and find a new man, while the husband goes and lives in a shoe box and suffers. (I have even had friends commit suicide.)
I will stay away from soul crushing relationships. Of course relationships are brilliant at the start. But in the end (these days) its all a prison for the mind that will crush you. (this is also learning from everyone around me)
I will not RISK being cheated on ever again.
I am not one to expect. And I will not be used anymore.
All I want to do is be positive and happy.
I used to be a quiet NICE guy who would help anyone.
Lets face it. The nicer the guy is the more the female can sense weakness. And they will use that to their advantage sooner or later, whether it be in a relationship or as a business partner.

And the other thing here is. Do you think you can actually trust any other human being? I mean 100% trust them?
No. The answer is no you can not.

Ive tried and tried and tried and I have an amazing mind for troubleshooting. But I refuse to be naive.

hate is a very strong word and your still attracted to women so maybe its more like you dislike them..... maybe because you had problems with them in your past or something like that...

I hate democracy.

That post from RRRRRRR

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Do you hate a rattlesnake because it is what is? I mean, it does what it is supposed to do. How about a crocodile? Boa Constrictor? Puma? "Cougar"?

On any given day, it may allow you to hold it, or even caress it.

The next, day..you are eaten alive.

They are what they are, and they cannot overcome what they are. And they never will.

Men, after the age of 18, who do not understand this are fools indeed. Because you CAN overcome. That is why a woman hates you..they know you have that power, they do not, and that is why they can disrespect you so intensely..you choose not to use it, and let something inferior.."her"..dictate your future.
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...is the best answer to the problem.

I "struggle" with women because honestly, I never even bother to gather the courage to even talk to them. I always go in believing no attractive girl would ever want to talk with me. For the record, I am 6'0, 196lbs, athletically toned, good looking guy. I'm here to say that LOOKS...don't matter as much as a guy's personality, and even if you appear to look like an Adonis, a bad attitude towards women (like mine), will render your attractive physical features useless.

With that said (As I'm working to overcome my fear of approaching women)...the most I can say is that ACCEPTING women for who they are seems to be the one answer most of us who struggle REFUSE to accept. Irony.

Like a snake that eats because it's a snake, women go off and have sex with heartless jerks and manipulate everyone around them because...that's who they are. To expect them to change is useless, but WE can change. YOU can change. "I" Can change. It's not that I myself advocate this answer; there is no answer. We CAN choose how to solve it.

On my side, I still struggle with respecting women, and accepting their shitty behavior (And trying to reframe my own view on them to something more positive), but, either you do or don't. The thing to remember is...we CAN. For a person to say "I can learn to love and accept women"...is ironically the answer in itself. I don't know why, but, as others have stated it, it's not about finding the magic answer...it's HOW you ARRIVED to the BEST POSSIBLE answer that determines success in ANYTHING.

I guess, three things:
-Accept yourself for what you are, and accept women for who they are.
-As a man, you CAN decide to do otherwise. Women cannot do so as easily. A MAN CAN. A woman cannot.
-There is no magic scroll. The "magic" was gained in the process of working towards the scroll.

I can't help you. You CAN go out there and do what needs to be done, or suffer. This goes for me as well. That, sadly...is the "answer" none of us wanted to hear.

So do we hate women...or do we hate ourselves for not being the guy a woman wants?

You have to stay down to come up. Most people in general are not always nice whether it is a man or woman. Look at it this way let's say if even 95% women are worthy of strong dislike or even hatred why waste your time on them or dwelling on prior bad experiences. Work on the other 5% and keep focused and positive. True a female can get sex anytime she wants but most of the time it will be with guys she is not attracted to. A man can have sex anytime he wants if he pays a prostitute or finds a girl who likes drugs and spends hardly any money may-be 5$-$20 so we as men have the power too only it will cost a few bucks. We don't ever have to bleed every month, or bear children and we are not judged nearly as hard as women if we are promiscuous etc. Each gender has it's pros and cons. Also fat women, homely women and ugly women don't have it easy at all so we as men have it way easier than women at times. Like I said it balances out. Hate some of the B.S. but don't hate women. Hate the system that creates all the hostility and the battle of the sexes but don't hate women. Some of them are worthy of disliking and even hating but most are not. Hate the dating ritual and all that if you want but don't hate human beings. Hate the cultural rules and stupid traditions and customs. But like you and you will find a women that likes you it is not easy but stay down and be confidant and very patient.

Just get a couple of crackheads and spend about $10 and use a condom. You can have sex 5 times a week for $50 without having to date or commit none of that. Some of those crackhead girls are still attractive. You can even have 3somes. Less headaches and plenty of fun. It will cure all the hatred you have of women.

women hard to live with... impossible to live without. find the reason (the core) the motivation for this hate. and you might want to visit a Psychologist (dont take it offensively) but it is better to deal with it as soon as possible and hey it might be hard but not impossible. I know this because I use to have anger problems ever since I was a toddler and my father left to America to get a job I was physically abuse by my mother and I grew angry and sour at life angry at my father for leaving me and hate towards my mother for the hell she made me live. this was until a couple of years ago after all this hate almost ruined my liver. I finally got the help I needed life is not perfect but I been in a steady relation for 4 years and she allways tells me that im perfect and I have a great relation with my parents. yes its hard some times I almost explode like any other person wounds are hard to heal, but one step at the time my friend. life is a much prettier place when you have your love one next to you. peace be with you.

The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is "What does a woman want?"
Sigmund Freud.

why will a woman go to the beach wear a bikini so small her nipples are half exposed then get mad at men because there looking at her? dont women know men are going to look? were not going to change. so if your going to prance around near naked expect men to look at you.

cause u r a fag maybe do u like boys obviousness is sometimes the actual answer u know if ur gay come out no one blames u no one discriminates that ended 50 years ago

Ask_Sean Says, Maybe casue your attracted to boys/men? (not trying to be cheeky or anything) but your mum and sister hmm sorry cant help with that >.< (sad face)

Most men who hate women have the same basic, underlying reason: the men (overgrown boys, really) want plenty of quick, no-strings sex with 18-25 year old "babes" who have classically beautiful faces and perfect hourglass figures. They feel that they need and DESERVE this, even if the males in question are 40, 50, 60 or older, fat, out of shape, plain or downright ugly, boring, stupid, dishonest, self-centered and maybe not even good in bed. When these males hit on the "hotties" and those "pretty young THINGS" turn them down...well, these narcissistic, clueless guys decide that all women are selfish, cold-hearted bitches. How dare the young, beautiful girls refuse to give them "a piece"! The silly skanks don't seem to have read the script to your average porno - don't they realize that their whole reason for living is to attend to the mighty male member? As for the women who might be friendlier and more available, those females should understand that they aren't attractive enough to enjoy male attention. How many middle-aged men despise and look down on their wives for no reason except that she aged or her body isn't the same after bearing HIS children? The worst part is that the "old bag" won't graciously step back into the shadows and let her hubby enjoy himself with some little cutie. Doesn't she realize that a man has needs? The most irritating thing about women is that they actually think they have rights, too, and needs, and sometimes those needs are different from a man's. Women just don't see that a man's wishes are what's most important. It's thought processes like this that have men hating half the human race. Many men have a blind spot when it comes to their own self-centeredness, unrealistic expectations and sense of entitlement. My guess is that you are approaching women who are "out of your league"....physically/sexually more attractive than you. No doubt, the fact that you don't have any interest in women, but just want the use of a nice female body now and then, only adds to the growing pile of rejections. I'm sure you perceive women as cruel and calculating, "humiliating" and frustrating your manhood, etc...why can't they just act like life-size sex dolls or fem-bots or something? Start looking at women as human beings, try to grasp that female needs and desires are different from yours (and just as important as yours!), RELAX, quit scheming about how to get Miss Hotsy-Totsy in bed, be pleasant and friendly to EVERYONE, and consider what I wrote here. Look at some of the nasty, bitter replies from men in this section: "Women aren't really people" and ones like that. It always comes down to a man trying (and failing) to get his knob polished regularly by the best-looking, most popular honeys. Guys, that "honey" isn't your property simply because you want her. She has the right to say no. If you hate her for having that right, you'll be hearing that word on a regular basis!

I do not like women either, but I also do not like lemon pie, or baseball, so go figure, some things aren't for everyone. My friend's all have girlfriends, but they are clearly all there for only purpose, the pussy, which doesnt really get me going, sex is fine, but it's not worth dealing and lieing to a women and fucking with your head and her head. Now I just stay out of relationships and sexual encounters because I feel healthier mentally this way.

Remember sex is money these days, so obviously sex is being marketed very strongly at us from a young age, in your head growing up you just think that hey when I grow up Im going to have Sex, and a Wife, and Kids, and it'll all be great (for the condom/birth control/sex toy/prostitute/flower shop/ every other sex corporations)! You'll end up arguing, stressing yourself out and shortening your own life, while pissing away time that could have been spent furthering your own conciousness and self.

Then again I was never a fan of sex, the only sexual need I ever had was getting an orgasm, once I'm there I'm satisfied, so why screw some piece of meat (which will cost time, stress (health), and money) Unless you have no backbone and need sex because society wants you to bone some chick so you can locked up in a mortgage, daycare, and a whole world of consumerism that you wont be able to escape from, so you'll spend the rest of your life making money just to give it all away in order to appease what you think you need to be happy.

thats my rant for the night peace out

steezydude, u make more sense than most of these idiots.

the fact of the matter is both women and men are self concious. more and more these days due to the photoshop models and unbelievably symetric gorgeous ladies on movies and huge posters. people have to understand that
women are under a lot of pressure to have certain standards. lets face it, if a guy had the choice between an unkept hair, no makeup, raggy clothed girl and a girl with a push up bra and well lotioned skin which one do you think he'd choose. sme goes for a woman. but mostly because thats what's expected of you. imagine what people would say if they saw you with that ugly chick/guy.
dont you have some standards. eeew.
the problem is sex isnt what it was decades ago. Christianity along with other major religions has succesfully made sex a sin or something to feel guilty about.
and in the case of women in general, they feel more self concious because they have more to live up to (some seem nearly impossibe) great body, childbirth, child rearing, pregnancy, perfect hygeine (certainly more than men) kindness,
cooking (still to this day) elegant walk (yes! even that! imagine a women that walked like a cagefighter or a rapper.) and the list goes on. all a guy has to do basically is wear a suit,be in ok shape, shave, and be confident and nonchalant.

women are nervous creatures but that doesnt mean a lot because women realise just how effective they are. im talking about something that was here before tv and all this sex "sells" business. im talkin about the "humps"...lol.
yes boobies and ass and all the right curves with the main attraction. the body. the body. the body. the only reason for sex is the body and all this love bullshit can be handled later. all men like at first sight is the body (not even the face) and all women like is approval. the problem nowadays is that they get a surplus amount of it everywhere they go yet they still want more than the average girl.

AND ALL OF THIS IS BECAUSE: men are sexually controlled (easily)

women think theyre individually special

people are sheep meant to be controlled



i used to hate women to but loved sex. later I found out that it was because
i was a bit afraid of what they might say about me. I then realised that I felt guilty for nothing and ive been putting women above myself.
treat women like the next door neighbors kid (like you dont even care but not rude) and see what happens.

@laneka.

No, that is not gay...gay is when you actually LIKE women. I think there is a natural adversarial relationship between men and women, we are in fact very different. The trick is to learn to accept the differences, and focus on the similarities.

I have a tenuous relationship with the female species; so many of their ways are far too different from mine, but...I respect those differences. This is why I'm successfully in a relationship, I know that work is required, and I do the work.

It would be far better for all of us, if we just once and for all admit, men and women are in fact different.

It would be much ea

if I would have read this when you first posted it I would I have felt the same I am a 28 yr old I have been married, divorced, and had 2 other serious people after that. just cause ur a man dosent mean anything. I felt the same way about men I would get light headed sick to my stomach ect just passing them in stores. and my past " men" 2 were fine and the last one beat me every day no lie for 3 years. but as u can see I finally got out. I moved out of state and o promised myself with everything I had ever had I was not going to put myslef thru nor my kids. so when I came here all knew men, women everything I still had it just worse, and I stayed that way for 1 yr and 8 months. I am not saying I didnt have a guy or to I didnt talk to but with them being lucky enough to even be saying hi to me every day dosnt mean I likeed them, they were my freinds before I promised myself that. so anyway, I went on life normal and after so long it got confussing because I aint going to lie I still " wanted " it just not them, so I was stuck because I was not going to make myself a whoe for something I hated but that I would just have been useing. u see? as time went on and the more I felt I just got used to it I couldnt fight it I couldnt change so I gave up on ALL of it. and now 3 years after that promise yes I am with the greatest man in the world. So after we had really gotten together I sit back and I would think about what it was I really hated cause well u see something happened. I relized one of couse the ones I had been with were wrong plus mean ect but this guy that how he did and he didnt know at that time he was doing it that " I despised his kind" so u will know what to do how to do it everything when and if that one person comes along. but u can't just give in to urself and do it to every last one cause after awhile your going to run out of getting over that " if thats what u want" and yes it is true if you dont get along with your mother, no one else matters but ur mom even if it u giving in or what because when and if "shes" if comes along and u do notice it before she dose then u'll be fine. I know I have talked your ear off I am sorry lol but really its up to you how you deal with it what you want. but good luck with whatever road u do take. and one more thing just think about it if u dont try and u run all of them off then u are going to get older and if this just something right now when or if it gose away and no ones giving a sec of time u cant get mad or blame no one else but u.

WOmen are flaky for the most part and I hate them. They are fucking carbon copies and that's it. I wish I could love women more. I'm actually going out with a girl tomorrow and I have to pretend everything is fine, I don't want to settle down, but I get fake numbers, lies, etc. BECAUSE I DON'T DRESS THE PART OF THE "DISTUINGUISHED MALE" and it's fucking bullshit.

I have nobody that I can talk to about this who can see my side of the equasion because they all dress normal. Me on the other hand are investing all of my money into my business and I have no time to dress "cute".

They say that women are "intuitive" but it's really a bunch of bullshit, because if they were, they'd probably take a greater chance on me.

I have women flirt with me all day, I flirt back and vice versa, but when it comes to the "nut up or shut up" part of the interaction, they are flakes for the most part and I despise a womens personality.

My girl is great... Extremely Smart, University student, couple of degrees, cute.

Women are flakes and it's fucking pathetic. I fucking hate women.

(You want to know how to attract women... You tell them you have a girl.

In 5 minutes, I'm going to show this letter to a random girl at my school... She's going to read that I already have a girl and she's going to "talk me through it".

I know the game, have no problem seducing women, know when to "pull the trigger" etc. but I have no respect for "the game" whatsoever. It's all superficial bullshit.

I don't want to dress nice, just because women like it at the expense of my business.

I don't want to tell them about my personal life, because then, it's not me attracting the women, it's my social status that's attracting women.

I'll probably never get married because of this shit.

The girl that I'm with didn't start emailing me back until my podcast got really successful on itunes. (But I'm not going to fight it because I like the conversation and the sex)

I can attract women, but I don't respect it in the least. It's all way outside of my moral code the way that women are attracted.

Women are the absolute epitome of the following words:

Evil.
Sadism.
Psychosis.
Dementia.
Stupidity.
Tormentor.
Demon.

All women have descended from a succubus. Not one woman on this planet is worthy of mercy. Why is it so hard for them to just accept the free ride through life that so many men offer? All they have to do is give orgasms, cook, and clean. In return? They are given EVERYTHING. Money, a car, a life, clothing, jewelry, children (Despite not being a desire of many men). It's absolutely ludicrious how much power they have, without even realizing it. Women in divorce courts? Automatic victory. No matter how atrocious and vile they are, all they have to fucking do is cry, and they win. They win the kids, they win the child support, they win the house, they win the car.

Rape? Sure, I will not deny that sometimes it is a nasty issue. A body is to be respected. However, did you know that if a woman comes on to you, or even during sex, is allowed to say "no" or "stop" and if you dont do it right that instant, despite having to suffer through blue balls, she can cry rape, bring it to court, and win? There are some cases when the female chops off the genitals of the man in "self defense". With all of this feminism bullshit going around, she fucking wins! The man is no longer a man anymore. He falls into a deep depressions, loses his job, his home, his car. He spends the rest of his life experiencing something worse than death, all because he gave a woman an orgasm when she didnt ask for it.

I hope women suffer and die. Perhaps someday by my hand. Ever seen the poughkeepsie tapes? Then you've seen someone I may someday try to live up to.

To all women reading this: I fucking hate you. I hate your mother. I hate your sister. I hate your aunt. I hate your cousin. I hate your friend. I cannot wait to look into your eyes as your worthless, illogical, contradictory life fades from this world.

Look around you...notice something? why are women NEVER with men who are shorter than them?

Whose life revolves around purchasing shiny objects for the wrists, fingers and neck...or to carry cosmetics in...not based on their comfort, functionality or quality, but because some gay, feminine clothing designer decided these things should be in style?

Why is it having a nice body is enough to put a woman in a situation where men drool over her and try to proove themselves in order to get a number and, then try to proove themselves over the phone to maybe a date in order to try to say all the right things at the right time in order to advance to the next step? When has having a nice body ever gotten a man this sort of treatment?

He has to be tall, he has to have a "bad ass"/dangerous feel, he has to be quirky, he has to be wealthy, he has to be...blah blah

The irony about women is that they complain about the man who doesn't care about them, is disloyal and uncompassionate and report what they want men to be...yet they choose the first type over and over again and dismiss the latter over and over again.

There certainly is a lot of hate here... I understand why these men are all disgusted with women. I think its very simple. Men want certain women and they reject them. If you're rejected enough, you start to get really really bitter. So bitter that you begin hating the very thing you want. I can't speak for everyman but a pretty/hot/gorgeous/slut/women/girl can control your emotions. Its like an obsession thats built into us. When you don't get what you want... its nothing short of maddening.

There really is nothing I can say other than this to the guys who are suffering. The hot bitches are conceited and dumb because all men want them. If you step back and take a look at yourself you'll realize that going after someone who isn't as drop dead gorgeous may be the better option. They have more character and they really appreciate you for you.

Women, don't blame men for being so shallow or angry... its hardwired into them, just as being attracted to confidence is hardwired into you. Less hate for each other... more love. We just need to control our own egos, and the world will change into a much different and better place.

im 16, my mother has always been a bitch to me ALWAYS. shes always been crazy in her head, unstable, and when she shouted at me and I didnt understand why when I was younger I just saud sorry because I wanted her to stop. My dad has been around but he is a drug addict and a loser. Eventually, as I got older, I started understanding that she was unstable but I still ended up being the sorry one because you just couldnt win an argument with her. And now I have all this anger in me, I actualy laugh at women and theyre ways. the few relationships ive had have fallen to pieces because I just didnt know how to be loving. I was a zombie. I dunno if youve had a similar experience to me mate but good luck in getting over it and tell me if you do, how you did it.