Suicide without hurting others?

Is there a way to kill yourself without leaving people devastated?

Please get some help. Some therapy or a school counselor, or SOMETHING. Because it really destroys a lot of lives when a person commits suicide. It is not a solution to anything. My cousin committed suicide two years ago. It wrecked his family, and worse, his friends. No one wants to lose you, even if your mom said something terrible out of anger, it would destroy her to lose you.

no way you will leave devastation also i believe if you take your life you will have to come back .i had 2 friends die by suicide both beautiful kind women one by shotgun one by hanging over 10 years ago i can' t forget them and just the other night i dreamt of one of them.i can only imagine how the families cope even after all these years.don't give up.

If youre considering it, people around you are already devastated to the point where it is making you feel suicidal.

Please see a doctor who can refer you to a mental health care professional. I know if you're thinking of suicide there seems to be nothing at all worth living for, but you need some help. Please please find it, for your sake and the sake of those around you.

look , ive talked to people who have attempted to kill themsleves and have failed, and they said that the failure was the best thing that happened because a friend of mine was tired of life being the same routine and he just couldnt take it, he attempted to hang himself but the rope snapped. a year after he went out for a walk and met a women who to this day is happily married to him and he is a very happy man now. the point is you never know what may come in the future, you could win a billion dollars tomorrow, who the fuck knows, just look its a selfish thing to do and a completly stupid thing. Id know because i am the friend. i am not a believer in god or organized religion, that didnt help me, the thought of the future did. just dont waste your life, and ruin other peoples. but if you are 100% sure and stupid, try and make it look like an accident.

Everyone here is telling you to see a doctor but let me tell you you are not crazy there are many people who are very much like you and the anwser to you r question is no there are people who love and care about you and you may want to talk to them about being depressed because friends are the best people to talk to when you dont know where else to turn, and you never know they mightr secretly feel the same so support them and they will support you.

yeah if you had a dollar to be able to take a day off, so you cant pay your 1400 dollar a month auto insurance, your 2000 dollars a month in back taxes, along with of course your 2000 a month of now taxes and dont forget about your debt consolidation bill now that your credit is fucked and you'll never get anywhere or anything again, but yeah I ll just swing by the shelter and pour some soup before I drive my ass off a cliff in my 1400 dollar a month insured vehicle, hope the family gets something for that fuckin price...oh yeah that was only public liability insurance it was supposed to be 2000 a month for insurance that would insure me...what a world...just disappear...thats the best way..fuck it all

It is what it is....If your going to kill yourself I don't think you would be asking for advice...! I was a bad drug addict and wanted nothing more to end my life. When your at that point in your life where you don't have anything left to give, The last thing you want is advice from pple you don't even know!!!! Who am I to tell you what to do!!! All's I no is...Shit or get off the pot, cause nobody wants to hear your bullshit sob story!! I can tell you that Life does get better...Really, it does.

I don't know if you are going to read this-- or who is going to read this. Chances are, somebody will.

I have come across your post because I have the same question. I also need to get out of here-- to die-- without more pain to myself and to those around me. But I don't think it is possible to not cause more pain in this act.

This was posted a long time ago; I wonder if you are still around? I hope so. I really hope so. And I hope that you sometimes still check back here.

I don't have any answers to give here. All I know is that you must be in a lot of pain. I know that I am. It's like wearing a mask all day that hides the screams inside-- so other people aren't bothered. But all the while, there is a slow death killing you, eating like a cancer that nobody can see.

I've read over a lot of these other comments-- some of them are cynical, within which I see a hidden despair that is too afraid to face itself, that is running from itself. But you are not running away-- I think you are reaching out for help. You are in pain, and you asked a serious question. I think you are reaching out for help because there is a part of you and me that is still alive. There is a part that wants to die and a part that wants to live.

The question is always there: do I stay or do I go?

But that is not a selfish question, and suicide is not a selfish action. It is not selfish to hurt, to ache, to be lonely, empty, hopeless. You are not choosing to be in pain. It is not selfish.

So what to do-- I don't know. I think it is important to take a minute and wait. Tell yourself that you will give yourself a day, a week, a month. Take it moment by moment, one thing at a time. Focus on each task as if it is the only thing you are doing. You don't have to do more than that. And these thoughts will probably be there-- they will probably come and go. But that is OK. You are taking a time out for yourself.

But within this time that you are taking out, I think it is really important to find somebody to talk to-- somebody who is compassionate and who you can trust. I don't know how old you are but you could look online for therapists in your city or go to your doctor or call up a local church, synagogue or other faith community and tell them you need somebody to talk to. That's a place to start. If I don't know anything else, I do know that compassionate, caring, and competent people do exist who want to help you and who would want you to tell them about your pain and desperation. Sometimes it is hard to find them, but they are out there.

Maybe that's a start.

One thing at a time. Your burden is terribly heavy. It needs to be shared with somebody else.

Take care

Most of these are asshole answers. Do any of you morons think a suicidal person wants to hear a bunch of BS about how "selfish" they are, or how the magic wizard in the sky put them on this worthless planet "for a reason?" Their life has no meaning, nobody's does, quit lying to everyone.

This kind of thing makes me sick because someone asks a perfectly legitimate question, and gets 1 answer that isn't a load of bullshit.

the 4-letter word for all would-be suicides: WAIT.

and I find myself just wishing that my life would cease..

Although I like Guilherme's post about "just disappearing," I don't know if being "missing" makes it easier for the friends and family who survive you.

Probably the best way to go would be to stage it so it looked like a freak accident--of course the catch here is that you really don't want to implicate someone else in this-- by that I mean you wouldn't want to traumatize some poor driver you pick to accidentally run you over, anymore than you'd want to fall off a ledge in front of some innocent bystander who would be similarly traumatized.
I've thought of just leaving the gas on in my apartment, just a little, so it looks like an accident... also, it is supposedly a painless way to go... just make sure someone finds you in time so they can harvest your organs for transplant--that would be a nice way to leave on a generous note...

It's probably hard to pull off but if your friends/family thought you had some terrible disease or were in great pain, then your suicide accompanied with an explanatory note might make it easier for all...

I'm still here, despite all i've written. but

All previous comments are very nice and full of "hope"... And bullshit.

When one feels suicidal, and therefore depressed for sure, the is very little anybody can do.

Who is going to correct any harm I have caused to my loved one? Who is going to get her to at leas be able to interact objectively with me? Who is going to put in heart to see me in a neutral way so there is at least a chance of getting back together.

The proper question should be: how do I kill myself without it looking as a suicide? To which questions do not apply any of the bullshit about it not being the answer, or that our loved ones are going to suffer. Supposedly they are going to suffer even if it ruled a natural death.

So, how the fuck can I do it and make it look as a natural death?

And who is to restore my relationships with my children and relatives?
Yes , I know... Myself some friends.

Well, you know what? Those an other suggestions are full of shit.

Many of us have thought or are thinking of ending our life because it plainly sucks in so many ways.

For example, my wife left me recently, not foer an infidelity or anything like that; but for something even worse. I stopped giving her the attention and loving tender care she did deserve; you know, I stopped doing the little things that are so essential to keeping the fire of love in a marriage; plain and simple I fucked up, big time. To the point that the last time we made love, let me correct that, we had sex it ceased to be making love because although she enjoyed she was not comfortable being with me, it was not the same as always", and that was when she knew she could no longer be with me. I have to add here that it had been a few weeks that she had started going out on her own (no, not because she was seeing someone else; she plainly did not want to be around me). You have no idea how ashamed and low that made me feel, like scum, because it meant that she no longer felt good, secure, at peace, around me.

And let me tell you, she is the type of woman every man dreams to have as a life partner.

And THAT makes me feel lower than cow manure, that because I stopped doing the things that made her fall in love with me she stopped loving me and now I have lost the one that filled my life with love, joy, happiness, peace, security and energy. Even worse, there seems to be no way to redeem myself and win her love again.

So, now I just feel empty, a failure as a man and as a human being, hopeless, insecure, not knowing what the fuck to do for the first time in my 51 years of life. Ah yes, and full of debts I have not being able to pay since the construction industry tumbled.

And you know what? I HAVE NO MORE ENERGY to keep on fighting, to keep on living. The thought of what is yet to come -financial catastrophe, lonely life, the mere possibility of seeing her in the arms of another man- lead me to the one logical conclusion: get the fuck out of this life.

Let's reason about what that would entail. First, those that I have hurt (children, wife, other relatives, and some fiends) will not have to deal with my be anymore; My children, who will not suffer too much, will be better off financially because although not that much, each would collect $200,000; I will no longer worry about my wife and she will certainly be able to move forward, with total freedom and without my presence anywhere near her life, she will not have to "worry" about my well being due to our separation and she will be able to establish a new relationship with a man that will be able to love and care for her as she deserves in all aspects, both sentimentally and financially. And last, but not least, I will no longer suffer or have to struggle living a life I don't give a shit about!

Negatives aspects:... well, NONE!

I have not done it, yet, because I have not found the way to kill myself in such manner that will will not case any shadow upon my children or my father's name.

BUT, if and when I find it, I will definitively kill myself without further thoughts because I believe IS the logical thing to do.

The answer is absolutely NO. You're not a completely independent unit in this world. You have friends (at least one), relatives, classmates etc. If you choose to kill yourself, those people I mentioned will definitely get hurt.

To be alive is the most important thing in the entire world, which is something I deeply believe! It's also the foundation of everything.

Life means HOPE, if you're poor at this moment and you're alive, you will have a chance to be rich next year (maybe tomorrow, who knows? Life is a miracle, born to explore, that makes one's life interesting, isn't it?) Well, it's just an example, not for money. Everything is the same.

Understand the word "HOPE" deeply, think, I can tell you, if you have hope there's nothing to fear in this world. :o)

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

my life sucks am going thow a lot now with me i just want to give up ,,people say leave it in god hand but it just not helpen ,,,it not fair,,i just want to give up,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Make everyone super pissed at you before you do it, then they'll be hating you too much to feel bvtthvrt.

No please don't do that:-( answer my question I've never been on this site before

I don't think there is. I have been struggling with this question too. I love my husband sooo much and do not want to leave him feeling like I do now. So, as hard as it is to everyday find a reason to stay alive, I just keep trying for my husband's sake. Good luck. Hang in there. Try to find a therapist and a doctor who can help with medication. hopefully.

Suicide is a very selfish act.
You need help, and sometimes asking for help is a very hard thing to do. I lost my nephew to a car wreck that has left our whole family devistated. It happened December28, 2008, he was eighteen and was a wonderful person. If he could I'm sure he would like to change places with you. Life is not easy. God put each of us on this earth for a reason. We all have a job to do, so find out your purpose in life. Stay strong.

The best way is to just disappear; just leave home without anyone noticing or make an excuse to be distant (like saying your going to sleep in the house of someone, or going to travel, anything). Second part you go to somewhere far away like a desert, a forest, the ocean, a cave; then just apply your favorite method. If you do it right people will never find your body, and without a body they will never really believe you are dead, leaving that thing called "hope" for anyone left behind, making your passing much easier to cope (since they will always "know you´re alive somewhere"), untill one day, after many years after your death/disappearing, you will be forgotten. Just remember to dont leave any trace behind (like documents in a pocket in case they find your body, or credit card transations that the police may use to track where did you go).

I think a good way is to gather money in cash and buy one of those cheap used cars from a second rate seller, the type that doesnt make questions or keep records of transations, and drive somewhere well secluded. At least that's my ideia.

Good Luck.

You were put on this earth for a reason. God has a plan and it does not involve killing. Do not rob everyone of your company. Listen to God.

Please don't. Although you may feel your life has no meaning, it does. There are people who care about you. I don't even know you and I care about you.

Please before you make your final decision, spend some time helping others by making their life a better place. Volunteer at a shelter or food bank even one day, visit the SPCA and give the animals some company. When you change someone's life for the better it may help you see you have a purpose and a meaning.